MY wife hits me, when she gets angry!!?

Question

i love here... but she is way more strong than me..i cant do anythign about it...every time, she ways sorry.. just llost control....how can i make her go easy on me?

Answer 1

when ever she was angry first give some water and then change the top or u leave the place where she is let her alone for some time

make her to do this things in the starting stage of angry

talk to a friend you can trust
count to 10
get or give a hug
do jumping jacks or another exercise
draw a picture of your anger
play a video game
run around the outside of the house five times as fast as you can sing along with the stereo
pull weeds in the garden
think good thoughts (maybe about a fun vacation or your favorite sport)
take a bike ride or go in-line skating

try to realise her mistake & read some useful tips to control her angry

http://www.buzzle.com/editorials/7-26-2004-57097.asp

Answer 2

Communication is the key to a happy marriage. Instead of getting angry over what pisses you off, walk away long enough to cool down, then come back and discuss the conflict without yelling. Listen to each other. Don't act like your listening as she talks. Its tempting to be planning your reply as she speaks. A pregnant wife is going through a lot of hormone changes which can affect moods. Combine that with being newlyweds learning to live together and you have a recipe for emotional outbursts. If you want a long and happy marriage, you'll both need to swallow a little pride and make peace. No marriage is perfect and it takes work but its worth it.

Answer 3

I Will be back.

Am back.

This may be a case of hormonal (oestrogen progesterone)or chemical (serotonin) imbalance or both.

If so she does not even know what she is doing or even remember after the event as specially if you clean up the broken pieces of glass, thrown items............

There is usually lots of pant up ill feeling (little bit at a time) which she quietly manages until this imbalance play a roll and she cannot cop with it. This happens to most women during certain time of the month, as you know they have approximately 28 days cycle.

Modern medicine can do wonders in this regards.

She must see a gynaecologist, you should tell a doctor what is happening, when is happening and show this answer.

There is a test for hormonal imbalance, should be easy.

By the way same pills are used for birth control also.

In USA most gynaecologist will prescribe some thing for (serotonin) imbalance or ask you to take her for evaluation to other doctors.

It is worth trying.

Answer 4

1. It may be due to high blood pressure. Get it checked and ensure daily that she will take the tablets regularly.
2.If she is not a mental patient and if she is not having influence with police department play a drama just to save your skin., Phone and get some close friend posing like a police in civil dress. Later when ever she is about to through some thing on you, phone to him.Fear may put her in some control.
3. If she has some mental problem immediately consult a psychologist.

Answer 5

Your question must have evoked a few laughs already. But I think it needs to be looked at from a different and sympathetic angle. Normally it is the husband who is more infamous for torturing the wife - physically and mentally. In your case, unfortunately, the husband and not the wife appears to be the weaker sex. You belong to a minuscule, but all the same very much existent group of husbands, who are at the receiving end of their wives' lashings. No violence, whether on the part of the husband or wife, is condonable. Your wife suffers from failure to rein in her outbursts. Her bursts of temper are uncontrollable. But she feels sorry for the same, which can be considered for a few times, but definitely not forever. The fact that she is physically stronger than you, also makes her naturally more prone to violent impulses. As you say you love her, try to convince her to the best of your ability, to change her ways. Don't mince words. Tell her lovingly and patiently, yet very clearly, that there is a limit to your love and that you won't tolerate such behaviour infinitely, but seek legal seperation if such nonsense continued. A little threat like that might do the trick. Seek the help of your close relatives, friends, elderly people including your guardians and well wishers to talk to her and help her change her behaviour. You can also take her to a psychologist, whose counselling can help her. At the same time both of you can visit a marriage counsellor, who can help you. Try to get in touch with similar interest groups and find out how the members of these groups are coping with their problems. Kolkata's Pirito Purush Pati Parishad is one. These cases come within the realms of human rights abuse. So if all your persuasive powers and other methods fail to change her ways, you have to take recourse in the Human Rights Commission. Or in a court of law which might ultimately and unfortunately lead to divorce.

Answer 6

Your wife has a problem and you should not condone it. Hitting someone you love and then apologizing is not right. She has anger issues that need to be addressed. You need to move out and tell her that you will not tolerate being hit under any circumstance. If she truly loves you, she'll get help. But she needs to admit that she does have a problem. Maybe you better write to Dr. Phil!

Answer 7

Try not to make her angry. & by chance if she start beating you Just lay down & get bitten. after some time she will cool down. Pls see that she donot have any weapon to hit you, which enjure you. otherwise only hitting by hands/ legs & any other part of body is enjoyable. see she is not using her teeth.

Answer 8

You can't make her stop. You have to let her know that it is not ok for her to hit you. Suggest that she goes to counselling. Let her know that if she does not go, she might lose you. Then back up you threat. If she continues hitting you and doesn't go to therapy then leave.

Answer 9

Anger management for her and assertiveness training for you. Mix that around with a spritz of love and have at it! Chew it up.. it's yummy!

Answer 10

She has a problem and needs to get help, try going to therapy.