I love her dearly, and think she is very beautiful. But she has a hairy problem and won't do anything about it. Legs and armpits are very irregularly shaved, bikini line is left to grow wild and her top lip is quite noticable. What can I say that won't offend her, but will help her understand?
2006-10-08 11:38:08 · 20 answers · asked by Discostu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's a tough one. I'm not sure how long the two of you have been married or how well the two of you communicate with one another. I'm curious to know if she let herself go after the two of you got married? or if it was something you thought you could live with. Either way... this is obviously a turnoff to you. The fact that you "love her dearly and think she is very beautiful" is enough to work this thing out. You have to be very sensitive with your approach and I would suggest you start by not using the words "not attracted". Make sure you tell her "you love her dearly and how beautiful you think she is" then let her know your concerns. Good Luck. Wishing the two of you many more years to come.
2006-10-08 11:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by dgads39 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just compliment her everytime she shaves. Tell her how much you like her nice smooth legs. If you do this everytime she shaves you should find that she shaves more often. Buy her a razor that is specifically for the upper lip hair and bikini area. Just don't give it to her as a christmas present. When she asks why, make sure to frame you statements in a positive manor. "I like it when your skin is smooth." If she used to take care of these things and doesn't anymore, talk about the past, tell her how much you liked her shaving for you.
Actually, the day spa suggestion is better but follow up with positive reinforcement. Tell her how beautiful she looks and buy the things she needs to maintain that look at home.
2006-10-08 18:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is important to realize that whenever you have a problem with another, the problem is always yours. If you approach the issue with this in mind, your chances of a successful resolution in this (and and other) problem(s) are increased tenfold. To illustrate this, just think about how there wouldn't be a problem if you liked hairy pits and legs. The problem lies not in her behavior, but in your expectations of her behavior. This is what needs to be communicated in order for her to not become defensive, but an ally in dealing with your problem. Asking for help in this is a first positive step. Ask her for help, and see what happens. You will be pleasantly surprised.
2006-10-08 18:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by marksavoid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy her a spa care package for a complete waxing- legs, armpits, bikini, top lip- and tell her you can't wait to see her all pampered and sexy. You might also add in a manicure and pedicure and a hair styling or a massage to be nice and not be totally selfish about your wants.
2006-10-08 18:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ever think about paying to get her a makeover? You should get some type of package deal where she gets her hair done, nails done, a facial, massage, a leg waxing and anything else you would like to get done. A lot of women liked to be pampered and she might like this. If they fix her up and she looks good and likes it, she might want to keep that look. Maybe she doesn't think she is capable of being attractive so she just doesn't try anymore. Try to give her some confidence.
2006-10-08 18:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by Pinky 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would just find ways to bring it up like how much shaved lags and everything else turn you on and then when she does shave make a big deal out of it like how you love to rub her lags when she just shaved because how smooth they are and how horny it makes you when her down stairs nice and soft and smooth things like this and you will find she will shave more often for you because it will make her feel good to know you like it this way hope this helped and good luck.
2006-10-08 23:18:19 · answer #6 · answered by kristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pay for her to get a make over and once she does you make love to her, and make her feel like your queen.Then you tell her how much she turned you on looking like that,but you have to put it down in the bedroom.Then you can tell her you expect for her to take care of herself all the time.
2006-10-08 19:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by sharon j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy her a gift certificate to the day spa. Get her a facial and have the estethician suggest waxing for her, that way it is not you being rude. get her a whole package with facial, mani, pedi, massage, and of course waxing
2006-10-08 18:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by ANDREA K 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Treat her to a spa day where she can get waxed, manicured and even massaged. Then let her know how good she looks.
2006-10-08 19:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by margarita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her. Tell her that you love her and everything, But you feel that she is letting herself go just alittle. She will get hurt but believe me if she doesn't want to loose you she will start to take care of herself.
2006-10-08 18:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by Kookie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋