help i need to talk with my nephew about sex?

Question

my nephew wants to know about sexual intercourse. im his legal gardian what should i say to him?

Answer 1

go to books-a-million and get one appropriate for his age to help you

Answer 2

It depends on his age of course and whether or not he can achieve an erection. If he can, you may both take off your clothes, but must not touch each other (incest rules apply here).
You may then ask him to touch his own penis while at the same time observing your breasts and vaginal areas. When the resulting erection is firm, point out that in the future, when he thinks of breasts and vaginas, such a reaction will be entirely proper and natural.
Then show him your vaginal area in more detail and point out the area where the penis is most properly inserted - but again, no touching. Instead you will have purchased a dildo in advance that is the size of an adolescent penis. You will then demonstrate how to properly insert it in the vagina, and the proper in and out movements, the recommended rhythm to use, changes of pace, and give him a close up look at vaginal contractions that should be employed at the opportune moments.

You will then instruct him in the art of masturbating with one or both hands, but again, do not touch his penis. It's permissible in some circles to place your hand over his as a form of guidance, but go no further than that. When he has achieved climax, point out that the milky substance is meant to go through the vagina on its way to fertilizing an egg, but it is not necessary to restrict intercourse to that purpose alone, as pleasure is also an extremely legitimate reason for engaging in this activity.
Both of you should then put your clothes back on (unless it is also your habit to give him a bath first) and stroll hand in hand to the nearest library to check out one or more of the many books and tapes available on the subject

Answer 3

Be matter of fact, use correct terms for the body parts and give him as much information as you think he will understand at his current age. Don't make a "big deal" of it, as you'll want to be sure he feels comfortable asking questions or clarifying things he'll no doubt hear from other kids in the playground. Take the time to clarify the fact that intercourse is a natural and healthy expression of love for adults, as well as the warnings about "improper touching" and abuse.

Answer 4

Sit down and tell him the basics about sex without any flourishes or emotions in your voice. Answer his questions without volunteering a lot of talkative, long answers.

This will give you a sense of what he knows and doesn't know. YOu want to be patient and calm about this so that he feels free to come to you in the future with follow-on issues.

Answer 5

You don't mention his age. Your approach and the amount of information you give would depend on his age and maturity. Personally, though, I think it's better to be honest and open in your talk -- no need to curse the kid with hang-ups he doesn't need. If he's at an age where he might actually have sex, stress protection.

Answer 6

How old is he? Depending on his age I would explain the mechanics of sex, then explain pregnancy and STD's focus on STD's show pictures of what an infected person looks like. Hopefully it'll deter him from having sex too young. Depending on your personal values (condoms or abstinence) are good things to stress as well.

Answer 7

Visit your local bookshop. There are hundreds of books about this. Good luck & try not to sound as if you're embarrassed as this will give a false impression of the whole subject.

Answer 8

Tell him the truth. If he's a little kid, I know there are picture books to help. If he's old enough, talk about STDs and pregnancy too. If you think he's too little to understand that part, make sure to emphasize that older people should never touch kids in that way, and that if someone tries to, he should tell an adult right away.

Answer 9

welll until i was eight years old, my parents had me believe that babies happened when both of the parents wanted to have them...i really thought that there was no work involved...

but then as i got older i realized that there must be more to it...i asked rthem again and they explained how it really happens...

then they got me a book about it...the book was made for kids with the same question.

the truth is the best thing...as long as their about eight years old.

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Answer 10

Start of by asking him what he knows already. It makes it easier on you. Depending on age, and since he is asking, he probaly has prenotions already. Ask him, then correct or clearify on what he has told you. Plus you don't have to pull your hair out were to start and gives you an opprotunity to clearfy all the dumb stuff his friends have told him.

Answer 11

Unless he's old enough to have sex education (like 6th grade... when they start teaching you), avoid the subject unless you really want to tell him about it. Whatever you do, though, please don't tell him, "It's when a man loves a woman very much..." blah blah blah... no need to tell the boy about only the hetero/breeder side of things.