Is an unplanned proposal offensive (girls only)????

Question

Is it ok to propose to a girl if you arn't prepared (no ring). We are on a trip right now and before the trip, asking her to marry me had not even occured to me. She did something kinda sweet and now I wanna ask her. I just wanna ask so badly because I can't wait for the response but I don't know if not having a ring would offend her. Should I wait or just spill it?????

(please ignore prior questions as they were asked by a different person!!!!!!)

Answer 1

You don't need the ring, it's the ask that counts.

Answer 2

Wait for the ring. Do it the right way. Anyhow, becoming engaged isn't a spur of the moment decision- you need to have thought this out long and carefully. Do you seriously want to pledge youself to be with this woman for the rest of you lives no matter what happens? This is not a question taken lightly- I know that 1/2 of all marriages end in divorce nowadays, and that is very sad. People need to go into marriage with their eyes open, realizing that the honeymoon period of intense romantic and passionate feelings is only a short part of their relationship, and that things will become more mundane and ordinary and you have to be able to be friends in your relationship and be willing to put in the work it takes in case you hit a bad spell and might even need marriage counseling. Anyhow, if you truly feel that you will stay true and love this lady forever, waiting a little to do the proposal the right way will make her appreciative. Girls seem to get hung up on the whole- was my proposal romantic- thing.

Answer 3

LOL
I never got a proposal. My husband is in the military. The day he found out about his impending second deployment he said, "Hmm. I guess I need to buy you a ring. Find one you like" I had it custom-made and it got here the day after he deployed. So, he didn't even see it until he got back from deployment.
Just ask her. Tell her you didn't get a ring b/c you wanted to pick one out together. Or find a "symbolic" ring (ie. cheap), and tell her you want to go together to get the perfect ring for her.
Besides, it gives me something to tease him about. Whenever there's a marriage proposal on tv or at the ballpark or whatever, I get to turn to him and say, "Huh! A real proposal. I wonder what THAT'S like"
(I also don't have a wedding ring...we did the JOP thing a few months after he got back, and I need to get the ring custom made to fit with the engagement ring..I've never gotten around to it...I got a baby instead. :-p)

Answer 4

If you do not have a ring... your proposal better outshine any ring you could have gotten her. Be sweet....be romantic.... make a ring out of something significant on your trip. Make the proposal the most romantic thing you can think of..... Otherwise, wait until you get the ring....
She will remember the proposal the rest of her life..... make sure you give her a great memory to go with it :)

Answer 5

Technically the ring seals the deal. You don't need a ring to propose. You should however make sure this is the right thing to do. I understand you love her, but you need to make sure you guys will be able to stand each other. Propose without the ring and take it from there. Good luck.

Answer 6

It depends. I wouldn't have minded if my husband had asked without a ring, but he really wanted to do things the right way. He wanted it to be everything that I had ever dreamed and I really appreciate that he put so much thought and planning into it. Unplanned proposals can be romantic depending on the situation. But I think most girls really have dreamed of the proposal moment just as much as their wedding day so just keep that in mind. You know your girlfriend best though. What kind of girl is she...the kind that is adventurous or the kind that is not?

Answer 7

I think the fact that you can't wait another moment to ask this life changing question to the woman you love is romantic. I am so sure that once you do it, she will know that you woke up and decided that the time was right, and you not having the ring at that moment won't be an issue. If she won't marry you, well except your engagement simple because you don't have the ring at the moment you propose.........you should re-consider the woman you want to marry!

Answer 8

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Answer 9

here's what i would do:

i would buy a cheap one you can find somewhere, it could come out of a vending machine even - something so obviously cheap
then i would tie a note to it on a piece of paper that says something along the lines of this being a temporary ring until you get back home so she can pick one out, but you'll love her forever, will she marry you?

wrap it up nicely and give it to her

voila - all your bases covered - you have the "traditional" ring - but she also gets to pick out her own once you get back!

i don't know, just a thought

otherwise though, i'd just wait until you get back
sometimes being on vacation with someone is very, very unrealistic of "real life" back home
of course, if you love someone, you love someone, too

good luck!!

Answer 10

I'm not a girl, but I have some thoughts about it.
How long have you dated this girl?
If it's two months, that's too soon.
Have you discussed marraige before? are you in a "serious" relationship wth this girl?

If you've been dating for a while and have spoken about getting married, and she was receptive to it, then go for the proposal with or without the ring, but get her one as soon as you can.

Heck, it'll be memorable because you don't have a ring.
Have fun with it and best of luck to you.

Answer 11

It's all about how you ask! My fiance didn't have the ring either and I had no idea he was going to ask!! It would be cool to get her finger sized for the perfect ring!! My fiance has no idea how to pick out jewelry for me because I never wore any while we were together, so he did his best to make popping the question easy and totally romantic!!