2006-10-08 11:14:32 · 21 answers · asked by Lexy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The divorce is for the best -- and that is your parents' personal business -- and NOT your fault or any business of your own to interfere or feel guilty about.
As far as either parent starting to date -- that is fine AFTER the divorce is finalized. Just treat their date with respect -- and be gracious. It always helps when you are polite to the potential date.
2006-10-08 12:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You support her. If she is divorced she is allowed to go on with her life. I just hope she keeps her priorities straight. It's a really , really tough thing to go through and sometimes dating is the only thing that makes you feel wanted, pretty, good enough, or feminine again. So, just encourage her to have a good time but, don't stay out too late!!!! Like she would you...try to make her laugh and go out with her to do mom and daughter things so she will feel her life still has meaning. You don't know how your self esteem goes down hill until you've been through a divorce. So, support her and be her friend and most of all let her know that you love her and want to be with her no matter what!!! God bless you all. You must be a good daughterand not give her more to worry about right now....you will get through this. Try to be nice to anyone she brings to meet you, noone can replace your dad but you must know she ca n't be alone for the rest of her life unless she chooses to be.OK? OK!
2006-10-08 11:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are divorced.....what's stopping Mom from living her life as sees fit? As long as she continues to provide a safe, secure, and loving environment for her children ( I'm assuming your a child, and still lives at home) she can, and should live her life. Her private life has absolutely nothing to do with you....nor should you pry, or concern yourself with Mom's dating unless she's bringing home crazy bikers that like to beat her up, drink beer, snort dope, and scratch his as*, while watching the ball game!!! LOL!! You get my point though.
If this is an adult asking this question, stop minding Mom's business, take Mom out shopping for a new wardrobe, so that she feels great about how she looks, if anything Mom may need some up to date dating advise, help her not to be fooled by some of the crappy ask lines men use on women.
Your mother raised her children, and doesn't need her child/children acting like her parent(s).....show some respect.
2006-10-08 11:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooooo, it's tough when you finally have to see your parents as people and not just "Mom" and "Dad".....you are their child and so you think of them as sexless creatures who have no feelings as independent human beings.....no feelings like you have. But you are wrong,.....just as it may be unimaginable that you would suddenly stop feeling love and friendship and cravings and wants and hates and hurts, it is unimaginable that they stop having these human feelings too. Your Mom has all the feelings and wants and hopes and desires that WOMEN have.....and you will, too, - all your life. It doesn't just "go away" when you get married and it is still there when you get divorced. So now you have to take a deep breath and see your mother as a woman as well as your "mom." Be happy for her that she is dating; enjoy and celebrate her life as a woman - it will make her a happier mother as well. It's hard, I know - but she will be appreciative that you don't try to make her feel guilty and that you are so supportive. She is in a tough place - you need to be on her side here.
2006-10-08 11:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by two 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has every right to be happy. You should respect her feelings even though it is hard when your parents are divorced. You want her to be happy so let her be happy. Do not interfere and tell her when she brings someone home everything you do not like about the person unless there is something really really wrong. You will not like your Mom to grow old by herself let her have her fun while she can.
2006-10-08 11:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, divorce is ALWAYS hardest on the kids even if their parents part on friendly terms. Your parents both love you, but since they are no longer together it's only natural they'll both date and maybe even marry again. It's also natural for you to resent it. Talk to your parents, perhaps you need an objective outsider, like a therapist to help you though this very difficult time. God bless you honey and I wish you all the best. Good Luck.
2006-10-08 11:23:29 · answer #6 · answered by Daydream Believer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to see your parents date after they divorce, but the best thing to do is to be supportive. It is a hard time for them as well. Remember that your mom will always be there for you, but one day you will move on and she will need to have that special someone there for her. Take care and I hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-08 11:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by Red 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you gotta put yourself in her shoes. Just because you were married and had kids doesn't mean your love life has to end after divorce. Let her have her fun. But she will think more carefully and have more standards to whom she dates and brings home because she would want approval from her children. I know I been there. It's wierd but my mom is a grown woman and though i hate to think about it but she has her needs too. so the best thing you can do is be supportive and understanding. Good luck to you.
2006-10-08 11:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would be truthful while i became relationship i does not date a single mom. i became youthful had no childrens an predicted a similar. Now in my 30's and a father if God forbid i got here across myself single I wold date a woman with toddlers.
2016-11-27 01:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by bastien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother wants to be loved too. There is life after her ex husband. and you want her to be happy to right? Just like if your dad started dating again you too would want him happy.
They still and always will love you. But they too need to find happiness just as you would. Just cause there older doesnt' mean they don't need love or they lack intimacy. This doesnt' change who your mother is. But she is trying to go on with her life too, and hopefully she'll find happiness down the road.
You can't expect her to stay in the house and never date again.
Just hope she finds a good man .
2006-10-08 18:56:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋