My husband and I have been married 5 years. I love him so much. He drives over the road and is gone 1-2 months at atime and when we make love the first night is great but its like after that he doesnt want me, he just gets himself off and im left having to masturbate after he goes to sleep. Ive said something but he just gets upset with me please help with some answers. Oh he is in his mid 40's, and Im just alittle younger. We've never had this problem before, do you think I could be presuring him?
2006-10-08 11:11:13 · 14 answers · asked by Linny Pooh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It wouldnt be wrong for me to ask him the next day to do what I want instead of letting him do his thing? He use to do other things but he has slacked off Im sure he doesnt have anyone else I know just ablut everyone he works with and it took us 15yrs to get together.
2006-10-08 11:40:33 · update #1
It wouldnt be wrong for me to ask him the next day to do what I want instead of letting him do his thing? He use to do other things but he has slacked off Im sure he doesnt have anyone else I know just about everyone he works with and it took us 15yrs to get together, cant imagine him doing that to me.
2006-10-08 11:44:22 · update #2
Guys ego's are sensitive. Anything you say they will assume is an attack on their "manlyness." Personally I find dirty talk works really well. First start out by telling him how "big" he is or how good he is, and this will feed his ego...then start telling him what you want him to do to you. Trust me, you'll get what you want and you won't hurt his ego.
2006-10-08 11:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jane D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I use to drive over the road to..I found the problem was that my wife look good the first nite and then after that all was back to no interest.It was not her fault it was mine .I later got divorced and found my wife now of about 9 yrs. I'm 46 and notice my sex drive has slacked off somewhat.I found that and old habit of lusting for women on the road was not healthy. You build up this picture in your mind of how nice it would be to hold your wife after being gone so long.Then once you make love the zill is over.I found a local job driving around my state of TN.I'm home every nite and go to church on suday.I found that being near my wife and family was worth more than Driving or Money.We have a good sex life and a lot less arguments.I hope this might give you some in site of a truckers life.If he has to stay gone for 1 or 2 months at a time he needs to find a better job
2006-10-08 18:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by xlhdrider 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 21 and my fiance is 35 age doesn't matter! You may be pressuring him but I don't think that's the problem! My fiance has always been more interested in how I feel and if I'm being satisfied I'm usually worried about whether or not he's satisfied. Anyway, I think if he just ***** you quickly without taking his time and making sure you're having fun you guys need to talk about your relationship and what or who he is doing while he's on the road! If he really cared he would be more compassionate.
2006-10-08 18:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by EriksSweetheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would tell him in order for me to have sex with you ,you need to do ... I would really make it clear that your needs are not met and you are not happy. I do not care what people think sex is a big huge part of the marriage. My husband is 47 and makes sure that everytime we have sex I am satisfied to the fullest and we have been together for 8 years. He needs to stop being so selfish and you need to tell him how you like it and how you want it.
2006-10-08 18:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, many women normally do not achieve orgasm vaginally, from penetration.
If you can get your husband to be a little more considerate, teach him the joys of giving you oral satisfaction, with his mouth and tongue on your clitoris and vulva.
You hinted that aging affects this. It does. He's not a wild stallion anymore, and both of you should make little adjustments in your lovemaking, so that it is not just his relieving himself into you, with you having to then take care of yourself.
Make him wait until you are satisfied. "Nice guys finish last."
2006-10-08 18:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by DinDjinn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no just when he comes home again,,ask him to use two condoms,, even if you dont use them,, it will de sensitise his glands and prolong the expierence or buy the otc lotion that rubs into the penis , that keeps a man harder longer by allowing less sensitivity to the man,, enough to let you get yours,,if he rufues to use it,, use the oral fixation all truckers love and rub it in after you stop services, before intercourse,,but massage nd rub for at least 8 minutes in between application and intercourse...
2006-10-08 18:16:09 · answer #6 · answered by kewl69charger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell naw!!! you aint pressuring him im a big believer in men returning the favor you laid there and got him off why cant he do the same even if he isnt doing it with his member he should at least want to get you off by performing oral or doing it manually. and if he says hes tired thats bullocks if hes too tired then he should have been too tired when he was trying to get his
2006-10-08 18:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should more conciderent and be fair you have ajusted to him being gone alot then he should be able and willing to give you what you need in the bedroom exspeicaly in the sex deparment. he is being selfish. that's what cause a lot of divorces takeing and not giving back.
2006-10-08 18:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by Heart-of-Hearts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a woman's thing, and you're really looking for something that is unimportant and not really right for a woman, in my opinion.
Now, I'm exercising my Freedom of Speech.
2006-10-08 18:18:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
he needs to know this is important for you, even if he can't last that long he can still bring you to release before he nods off.
2006-10-08 18:14:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋