she does not work and won't lift a finger to help out around the house. just a lazy slob. I need help bad!
2006-10-08 11:09:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Does she have emotional or physical issues that you aren't aware of?
I have learned from experience, my own and that of friends & family, that sometimes there are underlying reasons why a woman just doesn't have the desire, strength, or the will to keep a house spotless.
2006-10-08 11:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try talking to her seriously. Marriages should be open and honest. Don't lecture her just tell her how much you would appreciate it if she would help you out alittle more around the house that way shw won't feel your just getting on her case. hope this helps. No matter what you do though don't clean up after her or do everything for her because then she is gonna think it's okay
2006-10-08 11:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by Ms_Apple_Bttmz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it sounds like she's bored. If she actually worked, she would have to do stuff on a consistent basis in order to keep life organized. When you don't work, you know in your mind, you'll eventually get to it. When you work, you have to get things done in a timely manner or no one will have dinner, clean towels, clothes, etc.... Also, you probably don't realize but you enable her to be lazy because you do the stuff that needs to be done when she doesn't do it. Start slowly and ask her to get a part-time job. Then eventually stop doing one thing at a time that you believe she should be doing to pull her weight.
Good Luck!
2006-10-08 11:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by Vi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 10:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, I wonder if you're my neighbour across the street or if your the poor guy that married my husband's ex wife. LOL, sorry dude....that must really suck to be in your shoes.
My husband had a wife like that and he divorced her lazy butt and now he's with me. I work and clean the house so what does that tell you. Maybe you oughta start looking to replace her.
2006-10-08 11:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by colleenjohn_vano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to level with her. Explain to her that since you are providing for the family, the least she could do is clean and/or have a nice meal cooked for you. If she is not willing to change, I would ask for some time apart and start re evaluating the marriage. Or consider marriage counseling.
2006-10-08 11:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most likely there is a deeper root to this laziness. the word "depression" comes to mind. what other type of symptoms are you noticing.? judging by your description of her here, and if you are talking to her like this at home you could be adding to the depression. instead of attacking,,attempt to get her help..talk to her about speaking to a psychologist.
2006-10-08 11:15:07 · answer #7 · answered by askme24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change her, she has to do it herself.
I am wondering how your relationship is... Do you really respect each other????
Does she know you feel this way about her????
Have you tried to tell her you need her to help out??????
If she is unwilling, then it is time to hire someone to do it if you don't have the time . Have them come when she is at home....
If this doesn't get her moving, then maybe it is time you were moving......on ....
2006-10-08 11:16:19 · answer #8 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is one of my pet peeves .......I'm a stay at home mom and keep a spotless house....there is really no excuse for it in my opinion......i would start controlling the money and only paying her for time worked or per chore or something...i know that's childish but she must be a little childish...no one has to tell me what i need to do in a day to earn my living...everyone has to pull their weight in or out of the home.
2006-10-08 11:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by funkyk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a marrige counsreler ,btu thsi si just me talking here btu if she wont help then dont help out around teh house at all then see what hapens
2006-10-08 11:12:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋