I am a 18 yr old single mother w/ a 4 month old, and........?

Question

all i do is sit home with my baby day, after day, after day, listening to his crying and wining, and fussing, and Im exhausted and i think Im about to lose it...........Ineed a break so bad but I have no one to help me, what can I do?

Answer 1

I have been there!!!! I was a single mom at 19, so I know exactly what you are feeling. The best advice I can give you is to get someone you know AND trust to watch the baby for a night & go out for the night with one of your friends. Go dancing, dinner or even a movie, but for your sake and the baby's sake get out for a night. Whatever you do never take your frustation out on the baby, because he did not request to come in the world he was a blessing send to you.
Right now I'm 24 years old got 3 babies & a husband & even though I did not get to enjoy those years of "partying" I do enjoy being a mom and going to the park. If you need some one to chat with you can just shoot me an email I'm always willing to listen and give advice. Best of luck!!!! [e-mail]

Answer 2

I have been in your exact situation, hon! First of all, relax. If you have more personal time you'll be able to see taking care of your child as a joy instead of a responsibility. Find other young mothers in your area to have playdates with or even just chat online with. You need an escape. If it's not possible physically because of lack of childcare or whatever, then a good message board might do.

If you can get a babysitter, one thing you might want to look into is going part time to a community college. You can arrange it so you only have to go two evenings a week for a couple of hours. Just an idea.

I hope some of this helped! Just know that there are MANY other women of all ages in your same situation!

Answer 3

Sweetie, i know how hard it is! I had a baby when i was very young and she was hard work, people on here saying hire a nanny most have ALOT of money to spare. Try and get out as much as you can, do things where you can take your baby like meet your friends in their lunch hour or go to the park thats what i did and it breaks up the day. I know its a MISSION to get out with baby in tow but it will make you feel less trapped. Hope it all goes well and things get easier with time. xx

Answer 4

If you don't have any family or friends that are able to baby-sit for a few hours, see if they have a very trusted sitter that they use for their own kids. Or, try finding a daycare that takes drop-ins, and bring your baby a few hours a week for that much needed break. It's important to get time to yourself and to not get too stressed out. Stress isn't good for you or your baby. In the mean time, whenever your baby naps, take time to do relaxing things, such as a long bath!

Answer 5

Well, that's how motherhood is. What about all the beautiful smiles and coos and love you get from your baby? Are you missing out on that by feeling sorry for yourself?

You know what? Forty years ago, almost every new mother was about 18 years old. You are a grown up. You do not need help with one little baby. If you want to go out and do something.... GO! Take him with you! He will enjoy the change of scenery, too. Maybe he's whining because he is just as bored as you are.

That child is depending on you for SURVIVAL. That child loves you totally, innocently, and unconditionally. You are one of the luckiest people in the world, to have somebody who loves you that much. Grow up and quit complaining. A lot of people have worse problems than you.

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Answer 6

It's so hard. I went from being 19 years old to being someone's mother...
I am now 34, he is 14. I still depend a great deal on my parents because his father has been absolutely no help.
If you really feel so badly, there is nothing wrong with you considering adoption. It's not too late.
If that's not an option, you need someone to talk to. Maybe there are single-parent or teen parent groups in your area. Look it up.

Answer 7

Try to find a single parenting group in your community. Try to get information on groups from the library, public schools, local churches or health services. They will help you deal with the stresses as well as provide you with more information on different types of support for single parents. There are a lot of people in your situation that will understand what you are going through. You just need to start asking around for information. Good luck.

Answer 8

you need to get a job, not to dis you but have something else to take your mind away from that stress, my son just turned 5 mo and im at work for 9 hrs, which gives me a break and allows him to be with other people so when he does get older he wont be all scarrey...also that make the time we are together more worth while! B/c we both miss each other, and even when he fusses its not as strenuous on me.

Answer 9

find a sitter or other stay at home mom's in your area that you can hang out with.if you feel like your going to lose it talk to a social worker and see what programs they have for young mothers. take the baby for a walk or window shopping. don't just sit there and go crazy. you wouldnt want to do anything crazy.

Answer 10

is there either day care you could take him to just for the day...it's probably rather expensive...or what about a family member, or a neighbor, even if they just watch him long enough for you to take a LONG walk to clear your head, or even just for you to go grocery shopping!!! hope this helps you, cuz i feels extra bad for you, if i was your neighbor i would help you, when my son was 7 months old his dad went to school and i was just home day after day, same as you, and yea it is really tough, i thought i was going to lose it a few times!!!! oh dear i realy hope this helps you!!!! :( if u need anyone to chat to online...like msn... just let me know and i can give you my email...i'm not a preditor ir anything lol...i'm just a 19 yr old with a baby too!!!