How many REAL friends do you have? Why? If you have none, Why?

Question

I only have one real true frined, which is my wife. Everyone else is full of it in one way or another. She feels the same about her used to be, so-called friends. Someones always trying to either get something out of your or lie about something.

I know many people have tons of friends, and some don't have any. Tell me your experiences.

Sunshine - I used to vent to other poeple before, and then I'd listen to them vent and offer advice. But first I realized onone really cared about my opinion at all. & I realized the hard way that none of them really cared about my troubles at all, only my wife does. Or they only cared to hear my troubles to learn new information from me to better their own lives, not really to help me. Not my wife. She really cares about my opinions & I care about hers. In fact, she LOVES IT when I vent only to her anyways because it shows her I care about her opinion over anyone elses. And she knows me the best so she can give me more informed ideas. And she only vents to me. I feel the same about it, I love that she considers only me the main person to talk to about her peoblems. It's great.

And it's not for everyone. It's extrememly healthy for us, may not be for you.

RayRay - I think thats true for both people involved. A lot of times, one person is trying while the other doesn't really care, or has already set in their mind that your no good for no reason.

antagonis... - Exactly.

s t - I'm not looking for a back up to my feelings, I'm just asking a question to see what other people think.. And I wanted to state my own reasons as well.

I think true friends exist, I'm married to her. I think you could call those who are only cool for certain reaosn friends of the moments. Like, "this is my videogame pal", and, "this is my bus buddy", but could you trust them with your life, ofcourse not. So I don't call those poeple friends, I call them
people who are cool for a quick moment.

There are friends that you will have difficult ups and downs with, but many times, those people never come from the down, and only pretend that everything is cool, meanwhile you think everything really is cool because you weren't afriad to open up to them, but they were.

grrl - Hahaha. Your last line was hilarious.

Jax6213 - I wonder what happened to cause you to have absolutly no friends?

mary eva s - My wife and I are exactly the same. I think SoulMate, Confidente, Your Piece, are three different things, and Best Friend is the 4th peice, which my wife is everything rolled up into one, as I'm sure your husband is. I think some people have a confidente, but not a souldmate. Or thinks someone is their soulmate, but isn't their best friend. I specificed my wife is my best friend to point out she is the only real friend I have, among the other obvious things like soulmate, etc.

Answer 1

i used to beleive that everyone was the same friend as i was to everyone until i like you noticed that alot people use you for things you have or what you can get for them and then they don't have the time of day for you... especially if you have a happy disposition about life in general. I noticed that the less you seem botheres about these so called friends outrages them for not reacting to them cos they know that they're behaving badly.

So far i've kept 2 very good friends and the other is my recently found boyfriend who i think is the most selfless person i know and is very supportive and has been there for me in every instance. You're right. The person who you're with should be your true friend but i'm glad for my other 2 friends who are more reliant on me of friendship but are endearing just as well for not being the nasties that i've come across in the last 25 years or so.

Answer 2

I have no friends. Long ago I used to have a lot of friends but those days are gone from me forever.

I currently don't have friends because having to deal with the human race is too much for me. Having friends require that you have to interact with them and I don't have the patience for that. Having friends mean that you have to go places and do things. Having friends mean you have to let them into your life and I don't want any human in my life. What I really mean by that is I can't handle anyone else in my life.

Long ago I used to be a happy, joyful person that had to have people around me at all times. I used to go places and do things. I was always having a party or being invited to parties. I was the sort of person that shows up at a party and everyone cheers because they knew the life of the party had just arrived and the fun would increase.

Now I could care less about the human race, so I spend my time alone most of the time. The only time I am forced to deal with people is at my job, and they really don't know what to think about me. All they know was I used to be alive now I act like I am dead.

I suspect that this behavior of mine is forever and the only person that I have for comfort is Jesus, but I'm even messing that relationship up so I guess after I die, my next and final stop is hell where I believe I belong.

-Jax6213

Answer 3

I respectfully disagree. You obviously are looking for a back up to you feelings. Number one I will not go along with generalizations -- true there are some real good friends and others less so. I tend to agree that the "less so" takes priority -- depending on our social status, wealth, social behavior, culture and a host of other factors. Like you, I also was/am disappointed from time to time -- but I still feel strongly that true friends do exist. Look at the world around you and in the far distance -- there are more spots where people get along than spots where people still fight. A difficult up and down relationship with friends, I agree.

Answer 4

I have maybe 4 real friends, LOTS of acquaintance friends, but 4 that I can call anytime & talk, ask for anything, and likewise what ever they needed. Good honest people are easy to see for those of us who ARE good and honest. Now, my man he isn't what I would call a "friend" ~ He is my soul mate, my confidante, my piece. There isn't anything we don't talk about, esp when we're upset, the secret to a long relationship is communication. We are going on 9 years ( next year ) I know marriages that haven't lasted that long.

Answer 5

I was just discussing this topic with my husband a couple hours ago. I was complaining that the phone only rings when he calls or if our daughter is home. He told me his friend hadn't kept in touch much since my husband's promotion. I have made several calls, left voice mail and sent emails to my 2 "friends" for 6 days now & not 1 reply. So, like you we are each other's best friend. At least we don't have to deal with other's drama. I'd rather be with my dogs than humans any day!

Answer 6

I have 4 really close friends (one is my sister, one is my brother-in-law, and one is my cousin if those count). Then I have a bunch of other friends who are potential close friends, I just don't see them that often but we talk a lot and send birthday gifts and stuff like that. Then I have even more friends that I know well enough to drop in uninvited and spend the night or get some help from if I needed it.

Answer 7

It all really depends on your definition of "friend". I take the word wicked seriously. I would say I have lots of acquaintances, several people I like hanging out with on occasion, and plenty of work buddies. But as for friends, there's only my mom. My husband and I are very close (duh), but he's not exactly a friend -- more like a fun partner.

In any case, I've always felt that friendship (TRUE FRIENDSHIP) is exceedingly rare. Henry B. Adams once said, "One friend in a life is much, two are many, three are hardly possible." I think this is the truth!

Answer 8

It is nice that your wife is your friend. But I have to wonder if it is healthy to make her your only friend. You truly need to have some interests outside the marriage and someone other then your wife to vent to in times of need. I couldn't imagine my partner being my only friend. Yuck. I have 2 that I call "friend". I've known one of them for 30 years. "Friend" is a word I do not use lightly. I have many acquaintances though.

Answer 9

I'm like you the only real friend I have is husband and of course my mother. There are some people that I talk to and go out with but things have happend along the way. and that is why i dont consider them my real friends.

Answer 10

My true friends? My husband, my daughter, my parents and my cats. I am open to a good friend outside the family but right now, I am between close friends in that respect.