me and a guy from work are both in relationships.he is always asking his mates questions about me and gets dead jealous when i talk to other guys.we start sending each other flirty texts which ends up getting very dirty.he then tells me to cool itand stop texting him even though he sat up all night texting me back.i am very confused.any advice?
2006-10-08 10:54:10 · 23 answers · asked by SPONGEBOB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
serious answers please
2006-10-08 10:54:34 · update #1
he is only messin with ya
2006-10-08 10:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You NEED to get away from this situation and FAST! Whether you get a transfer or a new job... just do something! This relationship is absolutely inappropriate and will not prove to be anything more than trouble in the end. Both of you are being unfair to your significant others and to yourselves. If you are unhappy in your current relationship, which clearly you are, then get out of it. You would be heartbroken if he was involved with another woman the way you are with the guy at work! Why would you want to make someone go through such a painful experience. Do the right thing or you will regret it, guaranteed. If you love yourself, then don't allow this to go on. Tell the possesive, unstable, twisted creep at work to back off and leave him no reason to think he has a chance with you.
2006-10-08 11:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by Shellbus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy loves all the attention and would I suspect go as far as he can whilst ensuring that his current relationship is not jeopardised. The reality of seeing you in a mundane working environment probably takes him back to reality and then his bahaviour towards you he sees as being wrong.
At home....and possibly after a few drinks....things seems very different.
He is possessive towards you as he likes to think that you are his even though he is in a relationship.
Ultimately....you need to decide why you are behaving in such a manner towards him......things are close to getting out of control and there are going to be a lot of hurt people if you are both not careful.
So think carefully about the motives for your own actions I would say before even trying to question his.....
Good luck.
2006-10-08 11:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by Robbo31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he really likes you, but he in a relationship, so he confused, but you also have bf too, so why are u texting all night? unless u like him, if that the case i don't think it fair on ur bf if u have no respect for him, talk to this other guy, ask him what his problem is, and point out that he has a girl, tell him either he ends things with her and makes a fresh start with you, or he stops flirting with you and stops getting jealous. and make sure you mean it. good luck.
2006-10-08 14:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by white_funny_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing with you! He is having "fun" with you then reprimanding you for what he is also doing??? You need to stop the late night texting and stop flirting at work. What's gpoing on with the boyfriend you have already? You def. need to take care of that before you think about messing with another man. Next time find one who isn't already attached. You know the saying once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-10-08 10:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by mommyof2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop the texting?You are playing right into his hands here,just cut off all communication except work related issues-simple really-unless you like his attentions of course!?!Just remember,you both have partners.There should not be any confusion here,it is simple and straight forwards.
2006-10-08 20:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better than a guy who is either confused himself or just playing games with you. This one could break your heart if you get too involved. Besides, if you work with him and things turn bad, you'll be stuck dealing with him day after day with no respite! I'd say it doesn't matter what is going on, it just has to stop. But that's my advice, and you're going to do what you're going to do. GOOD LUCK, whatever you decide!
2006-10-08 10:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by lilgoat4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, listen to the warning bells and get out of there, he is just messing with you, he is proberbly trying to prove something to himself and you are flattering him with your attention.
you are both in relationships so maybe it would be better putting your efforts into the one you are already in, if that is not what you want, then make a clean break and end the relationship that you are in, then you can find someone who you do want to be with.
messing around with another girls bloke is not a substitute for a relationship that you no longer want to be in,
there are plenty of unattached men out there, so if you are not happy where you are do something about it, but preferrably with someone that is not already attached.
2006-10-08 12:03:09 · answer #8 · answered by mythmagicdragon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to stop with the dirty texts, but he can't because he likes it/you. I would still text him but I would only mention something dirty, it he mentions it first. If you are not his girl, he has no right or reason to get jealous. I would just ignore the jealous part and send him friendly texts only.
2006-10-08 11:04:35 · answer #9 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit it he's playing games, hes taking the mickey. Get one over on him by ignoring him altogether even at work. Concentrate on your relationship with your partner. I know its all very exciting these games but he's a loser darling. Good luck x
2006-10-08 10:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he sounds like he's a control freak and seems to be sending mixed messages ... Don't waste your time, it really doesn't sound like it's going anywhere good. My suggestion is to break it off before you get yourself into a situation you can't get out of.
2006-10-08 10:57:20 · answer #11 · answered by Ma'êšeeonáhe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋