My friend and I are currently trying to figure out if our boss is gay. She is in a very high position and my female friend has a crush on her, but is afraid if she tells her it will ruin her job, and their relationship. She is staying at the bosses house for personal reasons and they seem close is it okay to make a move and how do you make a move and still be safe
2006-10-08 10:50:05 · 9 answers · asked by Val 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think she should cool it with the boss no matter what the circumstances. I'm suspicious of her motives actually.
2006-10-08 10:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never under any circumstances mix business with pleasure. Not if you did not start out that way and even then it is best to keep the personal stuff away from work.
If your "friend" is staying at the bosses home she should respect the woman and not try to come on to her. It could lead to trouble down the road and hard feeling. Keep it friendly but she should NEVER step over the line.
If the boss makes a move on her (if it was me) I would have to say, tell her that she is flattered and very attracted to her but that it would not be a good idea since they work together.
If this "friend" really has such a large crush she might think about finding another place to work and then maybe ask the boss out to lunch and tell her how she feels.
Just an idea. Good luck to your"friend"
2006-10-08 11:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by mommakaye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all we all have gaydar and know when the person is gay or not. Just have your friend talk to her and get to know her better that is the only way she will find out if she is gay or not. I would not just ask hey are you gay that will be a big no no. She will eventually let your friend know if she is or if she isn't. Wheewww sure glad I am straight lol
2006-10-08 11:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is a 100% lesbian it seems to me she would know for sure. There has to be signs in the house or in her office. There has to be signs of how she carries herself.
Your friend just needs to make conversation with her leading up to finding it out.
2006-10-08 11:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask some questions ... like where she hangs out ... or just get to know her ... just makin a move can sometimes back fire on u ... say stuff like ... u are very beautiful ... a straight girl might not think nothin of it ..but a lesbian ..can sometimes ..take off with that ..
2006-10-08 10:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by lezbianflava 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She needs to be very careful where her job is concerned. You can't mix business with pleasure. As for if she is gay or not, they say they recognize their own.
2006-10-08 10:52:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't do that maybe she is just being friendly and then ur friend makes a move and loses her job
2006-10-08 10:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bring it up in a conversation...have some wine and relax then discuss personal sex preferences.....open up and see where the conversation goes...
2006-10-08 10:56:47 · answer #8 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yal , make that move all that can happen is a big slap! then having to live with that rejection is bad even if ya are gay os such!
2006-10-08 10:53:16 · answer #9 · answered by lucy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋