My husband doesn't do ANYTHING around the house. He won't even take out the trash. I work full time and do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping and pay the bills. He works steadily but makes stupid investments without me knowing so we are always living hand to mouth. I'm so tired of this. Got any suggestions as to what I can do to cope with him? If I ask him to help, he makes it so miserable with all his complaining, I end up being sorry I asked. He even complains about feeding the dogs when I'm out of town. What would you do??? We've been married 25 + years.
2006-10-08 10:21:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As long as you tolerate his behavior it will continue. Let him complain...if you continue to give in to his complaints and whining he will continue to do nothing. Put your foot down on the issue and don't give in. If he realizes you are serious he will make more of an effort at home.
2006-10-08 12:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by brokeninthebox 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you stay at home then thats your job...to some extent that is. Me, I m 26 and a stay at home mom to a 2 year old and I do EVERYTHING around this small house!
And yes when I ask him to do something, it becomes a fight. His main thing is taking out the garbage, I just wont do it. I t can sit there for days, garbage is not my thing.
I dont like the way things are, but ****, life sucks and it isnt fair, and besides I do a better job of cleaning anyways. He grew up living in a messy home all his life, and me, my home was spotless, so he hasnt learned how to clean properly...and he is 33.
You can always go on strike and not do anything at all, it may work.
Also dont pay the bills anymore...make him.
Go out and buy yourself the nice 200 dollar jeans you want, or go buy that new SUV you want, even if it is financing. Lose all reciepts, you deserve to enjoy life a lil.
**** him and do what you want for a change.
2006-10-08 17:35:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go church with your husband and learn God's way of living and doing. Then your marriage will good and satisfying.
In the Beginning God created heavens and earth.
God gives you air to breathe and sunshine to enjoy.
God gives you water to drink and food to eat.
God gives you a wonderful body and sound mind, to live.
God loves you, and you are precious to Him.
Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation.
Jesus’ love is boundless and everlasting.
We have the hope of Heaven through Jesus.
Life therefore has fantastic and glorious future!
(Digestion of above can even prevent depression and suicide attempt.)
2006-10-08 17:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by tmthyh 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband's aunt had the same problem. What she did was stop cleaning after him. She cleaned her mess and did her laundry but left all his for him to pick up. It was a mess!!!! They eventually got divorsed....I guess I don't have any good advice. Sucks to be you!
2006-10-08 17:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by Smiles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does it then why do you care if he complains about it.It's getting done right.So he complains,do you want him to do what you tell him with a smile.
Let him complain,tune his complaining out.And stop trying to control what ,where ,and how he does what you ask.
Just my opinion,good luck
2006-10-08 17:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by seandebra17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting a no bark collar with a remote control and strapping it to his you-know-whats. When he doesn't do what you say...hit the button.
2006-10-09 00:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by mrspatpat79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres what i did, i stoped cleaning i stoped mowing the lawn i stoped cooking....now when he does things around the house i will help....good luck
2006-10-08 17:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by seilygirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beat him over the head with a frying pan.
2006-10-08 17:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
over 25 yrs. and you are still putting up with this? mine is spoiled too , but he does do the manly chores of trash an yard and remodeling... other sh_it is because i spoiled him.
2006-10-08 17:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAS! YOU have the problem, not him. So take control of your life, unless you love to be a rug.
2006-10-08 17:29:52 · answer #10 · answered by ravin_lunatic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋