I want to have a sex life again. Me and my husband have been married for 8 years. I have said some bad things to him when I get mad like I am going to go sleep with someone else or you go sleep with someone else. I also told him I his penis felt soft when we had sex it is like kinda hard and soft. He won't go to the doctor. We tried having sex this evening and he couldn't do it. We did try to have sex but couldn't. He said the things I have said it messing up his mind. What should I do? Is he cheating?
2006-10-08 10:02:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How can I get viagra if he won't go to the doctor?
2006-10-08 10:06:28 · update #1
get some viagra
2006-10-08 10:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the reason he couldn't do it was psychological because of the hurtful things you've said to him. Maybe try complimenting him about how he looks, smells, feels. That would be the start to him feeling more sexy. It's not just women who feel the need to be complimented. It will take a bit of time to get the spark back into your sex life, but if you love him it will be worth it. Try sharing a bath or shower, having a candlelit dinner, or even having candles in the bedroom. Not too many though. Massaging each other works wonders too. Don't push the idea of Viagra yet as this may make him feel even more self-conscious. When you get up in the morning or tomorrow evening after work, sit him down and talk about what happened the last time you tried to have sex. You need to take a bit of time over this and have some patience. After all, you're still married to each other and the sex will come back. I wish you all the best
2006-10-08 10:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by slinky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunaltly men look at there sexualty as their identitiy and value. Clearly your man has a performance problem and is embarrassed. There are so many ad on tv for medications, its clear that many men do. No I dont think he's cheating; if he was he would probably be even better in bed than usual
Dont orde Viagra on the internet, it's mostly fake. If he wont go to the dopctor, he won't take the pill
Good Luck
2006-10-08 10:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in cheating ever or else I would say I couldn't blame him if he did. Viagra won't restore his confidence (that you destroyed). Now you really need to make him feel good about himself. Don't put too much pressure on him about intercourse until you have built him up a bit. There are lots of ways to please each other without it. If you really want a good sex life you have to love and respect each other.
2006-10-08 13:39:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read what you typed closely. If you are really talking to him like that, expect a limp noodle all the time. No one ever wants to hear things like what you have said.
Someone here make a very telling comment. If he can achieve a full erection during masturbation, you should be turning inward and try and find out what YOU are doing that's causing the problem. Then too, he could be already doing things behind your back.
2006-10-08 10:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't believe he is cheating. What he said was true. That the mean and nasty things you said to him in anger has made a mark and that is your doing. People have to think before they say things in anger. Because they can forgive you for what you said but not forget what was said. My ex husband said alot of nasty things and this was over 20 years ago but occasionally they come to mind and they are as fresh as the day he said them. They will be carried with us till our minds stop thinking. Good luck.
2006-10-08 10:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't try so hard and don't put him down. All the things you say are hurtful to him so he is thinking about what you say and not enjoying himself. Set a night where you too have the whole night to yourselves cook a nice candlelight dinner watch a movie and just let things happen. Good luck.
2006-10-08 10:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by scorpio11120 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no he is not cheating YET , but i don't blame him if he did. you are not supportive at all here. your words prob. have caused a factor in this prob. and he is now just turned off by you! blame him? what should you do , after treating him like that...unzip those jeans of his an go down on him...he might be able to get a rise if he closes his eyes...
2006-10-08 10:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably not excited by you anymore, and rightly so! If I was him, I'd dump you in a new york second! You disgust me!
2006-10-08 10:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him try some ginsing it is good stuff and also get some zestra it is a really really nice warming oil that will make you both happy
Good Luck
2006-10-08 10:16:50 · answer #10 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋