I gave birth to my son 18 months ago and ever since I seem to have lost complete interest in sex- I dont know whats wrong with me? My husband is really sexy and sex was good before... Help
2006-10-08 09:56:32 · 23 answers · asked by mrs rubberducky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is happening to you is normal. I know it happen to me.You need to talk to your husband and explain to him that your engine needs riveing up.In other words you need romanceing.Candlelight dinner no child around and alot of forplay. It's all about getting you in the mood.Which is alot of forplay...Just for awhile. Your sex drive will come back.Good luck
2006-10-08 10:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear worried,
Hate to tell you this but, losing sex after having a child is not at all abnormal. You spend most of the time catching some sleep and taking care of that beautiful 18 month old child. It how ever is not good on the relationship. It seems it might have something to do with self-esteem. Most females get insecure of your body. What most females don't get is that Your man will love you no matter what!
Have your husband sweep you off your feet. You said you find him attractive right? Well find a good babysitter and it just might mean that you and your husband need to focus on a romantic setting for just the two of you! Have a romantic dinner for two and a couple of drinks to relax and talk with your husband. He might feel a little neglected and that he is not doing his part to keep his wifey happy. Make sure that you get his feelings and in sights on things. Ideas to pick up the spice in the bedroom that both of you can agree on! Start doing little things like meeting him at the door and giving him a kiss every day he comes home from work and sit and take a time out for the two of you for just even 5 minutes every day is very crucial and will I guarantee will help. It's the little things in life that you do for each other that will make your love grow enormously!
Maybe even go to a lingerie store and pick something up that sexy that you feel comfortable in that will send your man crawling on his hands and knees to you! Make it fun for the two of you! It will be like a mini wedding night all over! Oh, Don't forget to tell each other you love him/her and seal it with an, "I had fun hope we can do something like this again soon!"
So get into your sexy mode! Look into the mirror and point out the good quality's that you love about yourself! Every one has good quality's!
2006-10-08 10:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by hahnleticia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well all i can say is that everyone is different. When i was pregnant i didnt even want to think about sex. I only had it once in 9 months. Then after i had my son i was right back to wanting it like crazy. Everyone is different. It might just take somemore time. Im sure having the baby s needs come first is some of the reason. You have every right to be tired. Things will get better in time.
2006-10-08 10:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, alot of women go through this. It's that your tired! You could also be suffering from Postpartum Depression.
Try getting a babysitter for a weekend and see if you can rekindle the love you share.
Your hormones may be out of wack cause of the birth too.
Talk to your doctor. It's easier doing that and finding out the cause, before your faced with a seperation or divorce.
2006-10-08 10:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is go to the doctor and tell him what is going on. You could just be overwelmed right now with having to take care of the baby or you could have something medically wrong with you that makes your desire for sex zilch. Consult a dr that is what you should do.
2006-10-08 12:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO TO THE DOCOTR!
it might be that after the baby ur hormones have still got an imbalance. my cousin had a problem like that, the doc gave her ostrogen and iron , and her mojo and appetite for sex was back.
i not comman but not uncomman either,
best of luck
2006-10-08 09:59:07 · answer #6 · answered by in ur face 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well even though your son is only 18mos old it could simply be the stress of it all. Sounds crazy i know but try to find a baby sitter for the weekend, start with something to relax you like cuddling with your man and a good movie, then work from there.
2006-10-08 10:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by thinkofmealwayslver 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sex and giving birth to a child r two different things.its your own mind which has lst its taste in sex.its main cause is pleasure.if u enjoy in this world then u shouls aso enjoy sex.more over u should make your interest in makink ur husband happy.u will deffinitly have his favour and his passion of romance for u.
2006-10-08 10:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by umair 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely go to the doctor for this matter. This can be serious and affect the marital relationship. It won't be costly. Your doctor will probably prescribe you some herbs to increase your hormone level. I hope this helps.
2006-10-08 10:00:35 · answer #9 · answered by Your Wife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it has only been 18 months , you prob. haven't even lost all the weight gain yet? not feeling sexy? tired all the time doesn't help.
2006-10-08 09:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋