loves me an that it won't happen again. I Do love him but what should i do?? someo one help me out here!
2006-10-08 09:45:52 · 19 answers · asked by Christy R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why should he stop when he knows you will take him back? Is he really worth it? What about your self respect and dignity?
Life is too short to be miserable........
2006-10-08 09:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by tina m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he keeps cheating on you, it seems he doesn't value the relationship enough to not let it "happen again." I know you don't want to hear this, but I think it's time to let him go and find someone who will respect you more than that. He just doesn't want to lose you, because then he would be all alone with his cheating self...and misery loves company...so he keeps saying this so you'll stay. Cheating once--ok, you're human. You lost self-control and you made a mistake. You allowed your temptations to overcome you. You ask forgiveness and change your ways. Cheating over and over--you're not really changing; you're just making excuses for your behavior, and putting a "band-aid" on the problem till next time it happens.
Hope things work out...sorry you've going thru this!
2006-10-08 16:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by peachy78 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you -- wouldn't he be true to you? Wouldn't he be loyal? You say you love him, and that you are loyal to him...so if he isn't that way with you...he probably DOESN'T love you. Don't even waste your time on him! He probably just likes having a girl there to be there for him and love him when he obviously doesn't care about you or your feelings! You need to dump him, and keep away from him. You might not even love him at this point either -- ever think that maybe your just so attached because you've had him there for so long that you're just used to it? I had a friend who was pretty much in your position and she was just so used to having her man around...she really didn't love him anymore = /. Best thing to do is call your best girl friend and tell her you will need her support through this. Tell her not to let you call him or answer his calls and to make sure you kick him to the CURB where he belongs. =)
2006-10-08 16:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by xxxdarksakuraxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will just keep on cheating and he knows he can because you put up with it and might as well say that you allow it. Dump the loser and find a real man. You may love him but he apparently doesn't you or else he wouldn't be cheating all the time.
2006-10-08 16:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by daydreambeliever0000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you know you love him the question is does he really love you? I don't care what he says to you his action clearly speaks louder than the words that are coming out of his mouth. I to have been there before and you keep taking them back because you are hoping that they will change and the fact of it is he's not going to change not for you and not for any other female he gets into a relationship with.Hopefully he hasn't gave you any diseases or made any babies on you. In order for him to change he has to want to change.
2006-10-08 16:59:47 · answer #5 · answered by kiss4virgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best indicator of the future is the past. If he has cheated on you in the past and you take him back, then he will continue to cheat on you. It's that simple. So, if you want to be a door mat, accept his pleas and continue on in the relationship. However, if you have any sense of self worth, you need to end the relationship.
2006-10-08 16:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by Taffi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how many times is it going to take for this man to cheat on you?? can't you realize this man isn't going to stop anytime soon....you keep taking him back...so he don't feel a need to change..it's nothing but a pattern that is going to continuously repeat it self....it's sad how we love those....who don't tend to love us back the same....because you can't be in love with someone and cheat on them at the same time....because first of all he's not thinking about your feelings....and he could care less how you express your feelings to him...after he's been caught doing his dirt...want to know how i know?? because he keeps doing it over and over again....and until you do something about it...it will continue...so if you love this man like you say you do....and you don't want to leave well then i suggest the two of you go seek counseling.... and if he's not willing to do that....well then he's not willing to change...and if i was you i would be willing to walk out!
2006-10-08 17:12:25 · answer #7 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All he is going to do is the same thing over and over again.Dump him for good, but you can still be friends. There are more fish in the sea you know. He loves you he's just not ready for a commitment yet.
2006-10-08 16:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on there are so many other people out there. And you can get lucky and find someone who loves you and shows it. The right way not by cheating on you!!!
2006-10-08 16:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by sweetsnickers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want help than you need to make you mind up about what you want to do. He is not your husband so you are not obligated to him in anyway. Please don't put your self through years of misery and heart break for a boy who is controlling you. I had the same experience and he did not changein eight years we were together.Had to go.
2006-10-08 16:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by virtue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF he really loved you he wouldn't cheat on you, he is just using you and doesn't want to break up because it would mean he would have to work at finding another girl who would allow him to use her like you allow him to use you.
2006-10-08 16:48:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋