some of my friends are really selfish, but they are friendly too. Some time for some help i rely on them and they help if they think they can get help back. Once i was in a big trouble, but refused in getting any help from two of my friends. I dont understand whther i should keep friendship with them. These two friends are now asking my help and i am thinking i should not help them and cut my friendship. am i right? please advise. thnaks
2006-10-08 09:44:56 · 10 answers · asked by johan 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
i dont think u r right think about it even though they r selfish does not mean u cant help them then u would be just like them maybe if u just talk to them maybe they will understand
2006-10-08 09:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by carly f 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I also have a friend who exhibits the same behavior as your friends. She's not dependable for anything unless it benefits her. I'm constantly there for her when she having trouble yet when I need her for something remedial she's en-cog-*****. (encognegro is slang for hiding out or not dependable). For example I asked her to attend a get together at my home. She says she well be there. I gave her fair notice a few weeks. The day before the party I call to reconfirm. She doesn't call back. The day of the party I call her early she answers and says she's coming. She never showed. Point at hand is some people are wired a certain way. I'm sure your not the only person who sees that your friends are like this. There family, gf/bf and other friends see it too. They don't it do to it be mean that's just the way they think. You have to know peoples habits, ways of thinking and doing. You have to decide if you can handle being friends with people who just are a certain way. Is it something you can come to terms with in a friendship. Sounds like your at that level where you question a future relationship worthy to be categorized friendship or associate. Not helping them is up to you. I'm sure your the better person who would help. If you have to question yourself then you know the answer. Good luck to you.
2006-10-08 10:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by giya_98 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your brothers are treating Dad like a youngster. Such a disgrace. At the age while he demands to have peers and pursuits probably the most, they discourage that. He isn't their youngster.They are his kids. Since brothers look unreasonable and Dad does now not look to wish to get up to them, what may also be performed? He will have been overwhelmed down by way of your mother and is reluctant to argue( sorry, if I interpreted that flawed. I do not imply to offend). But perhaps, Micol has a well factor. Can dad get a friend or neighbor to head with him? He might benefit from the enterprise of anyone nearly his age and so they might improvement from having anyone with a vehicle. That approach Dad would possibly not be on my own. Brothers can not whinge. Dad has independence and a pal.
2016-08-29 06:00:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning this, then you're instinct is probably right...Should you really consider them friends? On the other hand, nobody is perfect, and if you look for perfect friends, you won't have any. Maybe just being a better person then they are will reward you more then anything.
Don't toss friends away to quickly, unless, as you imply, they may not be friends at all.
2006-10-08 10:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by bluebyou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think bring up how they let you down, and inform them of the issues you're dealing with. I can't endure selfishness in a friend, so I think if you want to not help, and/or sever ties, go ahead. Better friends await.
2006-10-08 10:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends come and go . !
We enter peoples lives because either They need us or We need them.
When this relationship has been used to the best of its ability then there is no common bond to tie these 'Friends' together.
Move on to the next chapter in your life.
The friends you have had in the past still remain and are still part of the story of the life.. that is you.
2006-10-08 10:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by plutoniccatgirl 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is a "two-way" street, true friends are there
for each other; if you want a "friend" you have to be a
"friend."
2006-10-08 10:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by Jaymagiclady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Selfish people aren't friends, just demanding acquaintances.
2006-10-08 09:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel J 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
sometimes, the only way to get your point across with some people, is to treat them, like they treat you, and when they question your motive, simply say "that's how you do me at times, i just wanted you to see how it feels".
2006-10-08 10:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by daddysboicub 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What trouble did you get in and what trouble are they in now.
2006-10-08 10:26:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋