i always want to sleep with other womne, my self and wife have great sex, but i have an urge inside to have more. why?
2006-10-08 09:20:32 · 10 answers · asked by origamix60 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
This is completely normal since you are a guy ... human males like any male animal of any species are programed to want to copulate with as many females of their species as possible to keep the species alive....
Her is an article on WHAT IS KNOWN AS THE COOLIDGE EFFECT!!! (this what you are describing that is happening to you)
The male requirement for sexual variety is known as "the Coolidge effect", a term coined by the psychologist Gordon Bermant courtesy of the former US President Calvin Coolidge. One day President and Mrs Coolidge were visiting a farm, where they were given separate guided tours. When Mrs Coolidge got to the chicken pens she stopped to ask the man in charge if the rooster copulated more than once a day. "Dozens of times," was the reply. "Please tell that to the President," Mrs Coolidge requested. When the President passed the same pens and was told about the rooster, he asked, "Same hen every time?" "Oh no, Mr President, a different one each time." The President nodded slowly, then said: "Tell that to Mrs Coolidge."
FOR THAT REASON ... Almost all men say "It happens to every guy" ... while almost all women say "you are a pig"
2006-10-08 09:32:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Not indented as insult to you or any man. You are asking a honest question and I am trying to give an honest answer.
In general Men were designed to be hunters gatherers. In general Women were designed to be nurturers and care givers.
Also in our world early history there were less males then females. Males had the urge to propagate with more females for the survival of the species.
So if you want to keep your marriage intact, keep your hands to yourself and your wife. She may be ok with some discreet looking at other women on your part. But keep you pants zipped
I can tell you this much. If my man touched another women and we would have major major issues. I don't have a problem with him having female friends but that is all they better be.
2006-10-08 16:36:53 · answer #2 · answered by pj_gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1- you may not completely love your wife.
2- maybe you need to spice up your love life.
3- ask you wife about a 3some then you get your wife and some (my husband asked me and it's not an all the time thing but we are both happy) (oh but make sure the other woman isn't way hotter then you wife, make sure she is = hotness.
2006-10-09 00:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by nikngbe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an evolutionary thing. The males in every species in the world have the urge to go out and create as many offspring as they can; it's all about what's known as reproductive success. This means the more offspring a man has, the greater his reproductive success. All animals in the world strive for it. It is hardwired, and very beneficial to men to creat as many offspring as they possibly can.
Females on the other hand ... it does not benefit them to go out and have as many sexual partners as they can, since they can only bare a couple offspring at a time; rather, she will go out and find the strongest male she can, so that her offspring will be as strong as they can be. It is most beneficial for her to find a male who can help take care of her offspring, and no male wants to raise a baby that is not his, or if he has reason to believe it's not his (in nature anyway, he will leave), so it is genetically ingrained in them to be faithful, so her partner will raise and take care of her offspring.
That's basically it. It's not just you, it's ingrained in every species in the world.
2006-10-08 18:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know either. Maybe you should see a therapist and find out. Meanwhile, the important thing is that you don't act on those feelings. I've wanted to kill a person who has really, really done something to me, but I didn't act on it. In fact, I think that you're not acting on these feelings shows just how much you love your wife.
2006-10-08 16:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
All people have these urges. It's a left-over instinct to procreate from our ancestors. The fact that we don't act on them is what separates us from lower animals.
2006-10-08 16:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by mrknositall 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
a lot of guys are this way... just go get massages with "happy ending" and see if it helps
2006-10-08 16:58:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is hard wired into your brain....
It is a man thing...
Get used to it...
2006-10-08 16:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
greediness
2006-10-08 18:56:32 · answer #9 · answered by ink 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because you're horny.
2006-10-08 16:27:46 · answer #10 · answered by L 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋