i have been seeing this bloke for 10 months now and he is the love of my life i have known him for 15 years, today i see him with his ex girlfriend and his mobile is switched off has been all day, he said he ws coming round yesterday and he never showed. My head is all over the place and I have said some horrible things on the answerphone of his mobile. We tell each other we love each other all the time and when were togetha we are so happy and lovey dovey. what should i do and what would anyone else think in this situation. I have cried som much today.
2006-10-08 09:17:55 · 13 answers · asked by peach 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh he used to live with his ex and they have a place which he says they are selling. He moved out a while back. I know he saw me. And i know he wont turn his phone back on for a while. In my past I have been treated like crap and he knows this.
2006-10-08 09:24:21 · update #1
she doesnt know he met someone else
2006-10-08 09:25:40 · update #2
He is obviously not being openly honest about his life to his ex why? It appears he is not being openly honest with you regarding his whole life either or he would involve you in every aspect of his life and want to share everything, good and bad. He maybe the love of your life at the moment but he may not be the one for you! You need to get everything out in the open and let him know exactly how you feel, if he is like this now what is the future going to hold, ask yourself what you want from this relationship and what you are willing to accept with your heart and mind!
2006-10-08 23:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would he need to see his ex for? That is really the question. Friends doesn't cut it. ESPECIALLY if he turns his phone off. If he claims they are just friends then see if all three of you can do something together. That way, if he agrees, you can be lovey dovey in front of this girl and see how she reacts. If he disagrees, then you have even more reason to be suspicious.
Good Luck Peach!
2006-10-08 16:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew B. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do women always think the worst of us men, i mean maybe he has issues he needs to sort out with the X but can't involve you at this stage. I am shocked that you have left him horrible messages when you say you love him. It is a lack of communication that is getting between you so try to be nice to him and give him change to explain before you jump in. Good luck fingers crossed you haven't blue it.
2006-10-08 16:24:31 · answer #3 · answered by Tony Hi_teck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on., Hes obviously got something to hide.You should always go with your gut instincts. If you seen him with his ex and now his phone is turned off,,,what do you think hes doing??? You are right! Hes doing something hes not suppose to be. Dont let him try and tell you different. Im just telling you from past experience. Find a new man.
2006-10-08 16:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh i'm sorry....this is a real hard situation! when you seen him with his ex gf what were they doing...i know that doesn't really matter because it was his ex gf but they might just be good friends but if he had his phone switched off it's a little fishy...the next time he comes round to your house just confront him flat out if you really "love" him then you'll be able to tell by the expression on his face whether he lying or not! I hope it turns out okaii!! GOOD LUCK!!! :)
2006-10-08 16:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by emma s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you lose it completely speak to him face to face he needs to understand he is destroying the trust in your relationship if he has nothing to hide why didnt he tell you he was going to see her for whatever reason you are understandably upset and he has to realise this and i might say with good reason try and stay calm when you do speak he is in the wrong and must put things right its not like you have only been together for a few weeks it is ten months so find out why he behaved like this and then decide what you want to do you cant let this continue thats not fair on you and if he does love you he must understand that
2006-10-08 16:28:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. He knows you caught him with another girl (his ex to make it worse) he didn't want to face you the next day. he is obviously moving on and you should too. I don't think he is interested in a relationship just sex. He's not the one for you. sorry
It's happened to me they start ignoring you and not doing what they say even when they promise. Just find the strength and move on.
2006-10-08 16:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by kooimanlora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explanation?? whatever......, in my opinion actions speak louder than words, he would be history in my book, u can find someone who really cares and takes ur feelings into consideration, and if u dont, for awhile then its better to be alone than to be with someone like that!
2006-10-08 16:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by sunflower4140 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's geting some advice off his ex. or maybe she think she had a chance still and he's confronted her and explained that he is completly in love with you. appoligse for your outburst on the voice mail. i he really love's you he will understand why you where so upset yesterday
2006-10-08 16:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by ca06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you can do if your unsure is ask him straight out what is going on hopefully he will be honest with you.
2006-10-08 16:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by helen34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋