how do i not be so passive with my husband without disobeying god.?

Question

we are both believers of christ. he is just alittle to demanding.

Answer 1

I am also a believer and I think you schould talk to him. Tell him how you feel. And do alot of praying. You are suppose to be able to lean on each other. I am sure that things will work out.

Answer 2

What are you talking about...Passive?

If you are both believers in Christ, then you (both) know that your husband should love (and respect) you as the Lord loves His Church. For no man hateth himself.

Otherwise he has no self respect and his faith is a lie.

Being demanding is disrespectful to you and in turn to your marriage and thus to Christ Himself! So, it is your husband who is disobeying God.

A wife is to be treated the same way you would treat yourself. This is the best way to see how your husband sees himself and how he sees Christ. You are not a slave and even thought you husband is the head of the house as Christ is the Head of the Church, we are not treated as slaves by our Lord.

Think about this and do what you need from there.

Answer 3

Just because you are both believers of Christ does not mean you have to do what your husband says...it means that you have to live your life for God. Your hubby is not God and if you constantly "obey"him, then you would in turn be idolizing him. God made men and women equal.

Answer 4

Hold on here dearie. The line goes " and a man shall leave his mother and a women leave her home. Paraphrasing - to be one. This, in no way, means you are a doormat. Toss the Golden Rule at him. Some people who claim to be Christians are the worst people I've ever met. Saying you believe in Christ does not make you a Christian. I have the bad feeling you're in a bit of trouble here. Talk with a trusted friend - one without church ties. Blessed be.

Answer 5

You need to make him understand that GOD took a rib from Adam to make Eve. This was so she would stand beside him, If he had wanted woman to serve under man he would have taken a bone from the foot. If he wanted her to stand behind him he would have taken a bone from the back. A good husband will not demand more from his wife then he does from himself. We are to be one flesh equal partners,Not master and slave.

Answer 6

I would also reccomend another book called Love & Respect by Dr Emerson Eggerichs. Our Compass class on Saturday nights at Lakewood Church here in Houston have been studying that book, & it is real good. You can find it at most bookstores & of course Wal-Mart!

Answer 7

All men are idiots they think we should idolize them, we have enough on our plate without bowing down to our partners, everything should be even steven, I think Christain men are the worse for this attitude, I mean , why should I bow down & give thanks to them, God is the only one I do that too. I get so tired of being put down for everything I do, it's never right or enough. Sick of it. Men straighten up, give us ladies a fair chance.Life will be better for you when you decide to do this. Have a great day.

Answer 8

What do you mean ?
Are you a whore in the bedroom and a faithful discrete lady outside the bedroom ?
That is about all he can ask for.
You are not a slave except as whatever part you may wish to play sexually....You are his best friend & companion.....
Sometimes men get carried away with imagined god given rights.

Answer 9

I can't quite remember how the bible passage goes, but in a modern day context, I think it's just telling wives and husbands alike to remain loyal to the one partner. I wouldn't worry, just be yourself - God understands.

Answer 10

It's too long to explain in this forum. I highly recommend you read the book called Boundaries In Marriage. It's by Dr. Cloud. (can't remember his first name, sorry)
Very practical, biblical advice that's very relevant.
Good luck.