my husband..l love him, but i've cought him lying about little things throughout our marriage. he always says he doesn't want to tell me cuz he knows i will get mad. i tell him i get madder when i find out he lied. he has been really good lately. he has never cheated on me and is for the most part a good husband. i just have a hard time believing what he says sometimes. what should i do. and i have talked to him many times about how i feel. he always says i'm sorry and it won't happen again, then it does...and the same conversation happens again
2006-10-08 08:54:30 · 19 answers · asked by summer 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have lied to my mate because he has trouble accepting me for who or where I am in my life. If he were able to accept me I would be more honest. He does't have to approve just accept.
2006-10-08 09:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you said, it's possible that you may have to work on your temper. If it's true that you get irrationally mad when he does tell you the truth, why would he want to keep telling you the truth anymore if he knows he'll just get punished because your not being understanding.
Have you ever lied to him? If so, how does HE act when you tell him the truth? Is he understanding or an *ss? Maybe you should talk with him about this more deeply so he knows you won't blow your top when he does tell you the truth. The more understanding in relationships, then more open both people are.
If this doesn't work, then him saying it's because you get mad is an excuse on his part, and their is something deeper going on with him. Real communicating between you both will be the key.
2006-10-08 08:59:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a married woman of 27 years to the same man so I think I can qualify about knowing a little something of marriage. You can choose to believe me or not. All women married or not have blinders on when it comes to husbands or boyfriends if we didn't we all would be walking around with broken hearts. If we really knew what our men where really like and thinking we run so far away from them. That is why your husband won't tell you, he knows it will brake your heart . He will do anything just to get you to stop questionning him.Remember men are nothing but little boys and little boys don't like it when you catch them in a lie they don't like to be yelled at so he tells you he is sorry and it will never happen again. You make it so easy for him to keep on lying to you.He knows that nothing is going to happen so why should he stop he is having to much fun with the other women in his life. I know you said he isn't cheating do you really believe that or is that what you choose to believe.I know it hurts I have been there so I know. I also choose to believe my husband when he kept telling me over and over that he wasn't cheating. After I found out I read book after book on the subject and it said there is only one reason and one reason only when a husband lies to his wife its when he is having an affair and he will do anything to keep it going.Are you really to face the truth or are you that desperate to hold on to your husband. TIME TO TAKE THE BLINDERS OFF!
2006-10-08 10:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by teeny r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still with this lying loser? he cheats says he sorry and you forgive him and he does it again. Will he stop? Heck no why should he? He knows that he can do whatever he wants and you will forgive him and he'll go do it again. he has a very bad character flaw, he's a liar and a cheat and he has no reason to change. he does not love you if he did he would have never started much less still lying to you and cheating. Your best bet is to leave him to his lies and his girlfriends. You deserve someone that will love and respect you and only you. You are hooked up to a loser. Sorry.
2006-10-08 09:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honest answer: if he is not cheating on you;forget about the other minor details and be happy.That he is, and maybe, he never will change.But in marriage the main problem is: when he or she are cheating.In this case,forget about those small details.God bless you,be happy,he is a good man.He is afraid to you,that is why he is lying sometimes.Good luck.
2006-10-08 09:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 02:16:02 · answer #6 · answered by matlock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a deeper problem then you think, he needs to seek help, or he needs to work on himself! Ask him if the two of you could go for counseling? But once he realize he has a problem, then half of the battle is done, now he need to work on the reason why he has to lie.
2006-10-08 08:59:57 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the things he lies about are major, life effecting issues then you may need to move on. If they're just anecdotes that never happened or something harmless then stick with him.
2006-10-08 08:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by adambomb286 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this, but some people are just habitual liars.
Pay close attention and see if he lies to other people.
How about you, do you s t r e t c h the truth when it suits you?
Have a nice day.
2006-10-08 08:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lies kill trust. You have to decide how much abuse you're willing to take. My husband and I made a new rule. If we wouldn't do it with the other one standing there watching, we don't do it. (Thanks Dr. Phil). Our new start is working. I hope your man gets it together. If not send him packing. Even little lies show alot of disrespect. You deserve your man's respect.
2006-10-08 09:08:03 · answer #10 · answered by Roni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋