he likes this girl that is a a** hole.i have been going out with him for months...should i brake up with him or say which one are you going to choose
2006-10-08 08:30:20 · 28 answers · asked by Shanta H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
OH YEA,,,,,,,,,, when hell freezes over.............
2006-10-08 08:32:51 · answer #1 · answered by avery 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change his behaviors--such as telling him he must choose between you or the other female. What I strongly suggest is that you do some serious self-reflection on how much you value yourself. Are you willing to remain in a relationship with a guy who cannot give you his undivided attention, love, intimacy, and support? I would want to know how long you two had "been going out" before he was seeing this other female or if he was already seeing her before the two of you started dating. If the latter is true, don't you think that says a great deal about how much value you place upon yourself? In other words, if he was already seeing this other female when the two of you met, and yet you still chose to enter into some type of relationship with him, then that would tell me you don't find yourself worthy enough for a monogamous relationship (emotional monogamy), and that you might be more comfortable with a guy who cannot help you create a relationship where you must be more vulnerable and open with him. Because if he is already seeing someone else, and you chose to date him, then you don't have to worry about the relationship growing deeper to a level where you both must be vulnerable, trusting, and open with one another. I hope this helps, and I hope you will make a decision that reflects how valuable you are, how much YOU have to "bring to the table" of a relationship.
2006-10-08 15:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by Kent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not leave the choice up to him, as he has had his way for a long time, and by you going along with it is like approval. So now you have to choose if you want go out with some one that keeps some one on the side just in case. not a position Any woman would accept. but you have to
2006-10-08 15:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, if he's going out with you and someone else, it means he's indecisive and immature. Going out with a boy who cannot choose between two girls means he's not committed to either. Best to be with someone who can offer you what you want and give you a clear view of how they feel about you.
2006-10-08 15:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by Kaylin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how much you respect yourself and what your values are. I personally find the thought of being a guy's "other girlfriend" ridiculously morally degrading and against my values and my religion but I am not you and therefore cannot speak for what you feel. I do believe that all girls are special enough to deserve a boy-toy all to their selves.
2006-10-08 15:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he have to choose, You do not want him, he does not know who he wants. Find a friend, first, go with him a while, so you can see how he is, and how he treats you, take it slow, before he becomes your boyfriend.
2006-10-08 15:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up. If he wants to date another girl, it means he doesn't love you enough. Make evth clear and break up now, if you don't want to get hurt more. At least, you should respect yourself. Don't even ask him to choose. Just leave him.
2006-10-08 15:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by lugil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to go with break up with him on that one. I'm no Dr. Phil, but I'm pretty sure that this scenario can only end in tears. Or a teen pregnancy. Mostly tears though.
2006-10-08 15:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by lennonade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight up that if he wants to be with her then to go and be with her because think about it, Do you really want to be with someone that doesn't love only you. I dont think anyone wants to be with a player. But if you really love him..... Just do what you're heart tells you. Good Luck : )
2006-10-08 15:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by the_smart_one33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd break up with him but thats me.Do what u think is right if he's around her more then hes around u id brak up with im.But follow ur heart do what u want to with ur life its your choice.
2006-10-08 15:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by baby_girl_forever89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No who wants to come in second place
2006-10-08 15:31:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋