My 7yo daughter is being harassed and intimidated by my neighbor. Last May I filed battery charges against her for trying to choke me. Since then she has been taking it out on my daughter by flipping her off, making faces at her, making the devil sign at her, the loser sign at her, standing in her yard and staring at my daughter (which makes my daughter come inside), and various other childish acts. The police say there is nothing they can do and say they are tired of coming here for stupid nonsense, and that what she's doing is not against the law. They leave making me feel like i'm doing something wrong by calling them. My neighbor denies everything and her husband backs her up. I don't know what to do or how to stop it. My daughter is terrified of her, especially since she witnessed her trying to choke me, which she ran across the street and did after I told her to mind her own business. What can I do? I live in Louisiana.
2006-10-08 08:21:37 · 17 answers · asked by Firefighters Wife 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
videotape her, get a restraining order, and use your garden hose and water her (you can beat her with it if she starts a physical confrontation) when she's just out on the lawn. Hows your back yard?
2006-10-08 08:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by devilUknow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a big one! The police are not at fault - they can only uphold the law. Which means someone has to break it, before they can do anything. This is not an option for you.
For your daughter's emotional health, I'd try teaching her that some people are just not "Right in the head". She's old enough to understand "crazy" and the fact that it has nothing to do with her. It's just a sick lady who happens to live next door.
This advice is a HUGE stretch, but try contacting a lawyer (one with free consultations) and see if she can be charged with abuse. No child should have to be afraid.
2006-10-08 08:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think the answer is obvious..........Keep her indoors.....Just go to the park with her for some fresh air from time to time..You will both enjoy the park...........As far as the neighbor try this.
Tell your daughter not to look at her whenever she is around, then the neighbor could not do those things to her, and if she does them anyway, daughter wouldn't see it if she is not looking..This will also make the neighbor frustrated...........and maybe she will stop....You protect your daughter from this wierdo..It's not just men who are child sickos.....And if she can't go out side, she can't go out side...the world won't end.....Buy her s scrapbooking kit to do inside......Whenthat is done, buy her a jewelry making kit...Keep her busy with things (homework first)
Good luck..Just ignore that person..I just remembered something
My sons old girlfriend had the same problem a few years ago.
Everytime the lady did something My sons friend called the police.Even though they could do nothing, a police report was still made........After 6 months of this, and many numerous police reports, Sons friend took neighbor to civil court and won her case and the neighbor was given a warning,,Next time a heavy fine,,,Judge said he did not want to see another police report on that person...Sons friend has 3 children
2006-10-08 08:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Either make peace with this woman or move. It's a lot of wear and tear on you and your daughter's peace of mind to have this insane situation on your doorstep all of the time.
Is it possible to find someone who might mediate a discussion between the two of you? A community leader that you both respect and would agree to abide by their rules for discussion?
How can we ask for peace in the world when we can't get along with our neighbors? I've been there, so please don't think that I'm judging. Thankfully, I moved 4 years ago and realized how damaging the many years of ill-feelings were! It's sooo sweet to come home to a peaceful neighborhood.
Good luck. We all deserve peaceful homes.
2006-10-08 08:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by Klem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow am not sure why your state is so laxed on this.. Harassment is a Charge on a minor at that.. You might have to go to your local news paper put heat on everybody I am sure you will get a good response and tape her in action!! You need proof.. Let the news AIR her azz live in the crime I bet things will change.. some times you have to go over some heads to bring down the heat.
Try your best not to put your hands on the woman.. Pray over your daughter daily to be protected when you can't see her. God bless you keep the faith and do what you have to do.
2006-10-08 08:38:13 · answer #5 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can always go above these cops head and talk to their supervisor and if that doesnt help you can tell the cops that you are going to call a lawyer next and they will be in trouble for not protecting you or your daughter no one should be abused emotinally or have their child be hurt you can also call the news people for we have a reporter that helps resolve issues in Michigan If you have that do that for you do not need to be abused like this and its wrong that the cops won't do anything for you
2006-10-08 08:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There was an article about a similar situation in Readers Digest a few months ago and basically there wasn't much they could do until the neighbor's actually tried to kill them (without success). My best advice would be to move ASAP and get away from the pshycho neighbors.
2006-10-08 08:25:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Notify an attorney. This should not keep going on and the police not do anything about it. It could wind up to being something more serious later on, if something is not done now.
I have a 12 year old sister, and get irriated if I find someone picking on her. If she brings your daughter into the matter, then it is really getting serious.
Seek for an attorney's standpoint.
2006-10-08 08:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
im only 14 but i know the feeling you and your daughter are having, i was being harrassed when i was 12 by a 50 year old man who is actually the fahter of one of my class mates one day one my way to school he threatend me ebcause i called the cops on him for his sons throwing ice at me they say theres nothing they can do one more act and hes in anger managment but that doesnt help me i would say either move or invite your neigbour over for tea or coffee and get this thing sorted out and since your daughter is afraid of her she can be in the room or at a friends house because i know that confrintation is scary for a young girl and shes probolly going to be scared for her life but i would just suggest put your house up on the market or get a patition going around town to everyone that also dislikes them to force them to leave the area but i would say if confrientation, moving or petition, and i think the cops are bull crap there if theres notohign they can do they can talk to her and possibley give her a warning and if they have one more complaint they can give her a ticket or a fien thats what things are like where i live, thats all i can say, but im glad to know that your daughter will never mistreat someone else when shes grown up because when you grow up with this going on in your mind you will never do that to a child when your an adult i know im going to try to stop all this stuff but thats all i can say good luck to you and your daughter
2006-10-08 08:35:18 · answer #9 · answered by Melly. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney, and ask what your legal rights are. Call the local police but ask to speak to someone higher up than just patrolmen. Tell them you are being harrassed. Also, you can videotape your neighbor doing this stuff, then call the police. You do have rights and should be able to live in peace!
2006-10-08 08:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by JP 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You daughter is 7. (So is mine.) She may never get over this kind of abuse. The law won't be much help. If some b---h was doing that to my baby she'd take a ball bat up the side of her head and I'd have my husband waiting with my bail money.
2006-10-08 08:29:41 · answer #11 · answered by Roni 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋