I am 50...i feel old and cant do what i used to do..so many time i disappoint my wife....how to cope?
2006-10-08 08:14:03 · 7 answers · asked by qwerty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am a 52 year old woman, still feel like I am 19. I met a man 2 and a half years ago...same as you...he thought he lost his sexual function, he felt redundant, felt old like you and had not had sex with his wife for about 15 years. The problem wasnt with him, the problem was with the relationship as a whole. He is now 55, but doesnt look a day over 45 and acts like he is 19. The relationship had lost its spark, it became a hum drum existence, no romance, no nothing. His wife had put on a lot of weight, she was a ****** and a manipulator, but he was a family man, he spent his entire life providing for his family, and at 52 he had to re-assess his life. Every relationship is different and there could be heaps of reasons you are feeling like this...Maybe there are health issues and if so, go see your doctor for a check-up. There are some wonderful medications now that may work for you if you are having problems with getting and sustaining an erection. Or maybe its as simple as your life is boring and you need some excitiement. Does your wife still appeal to you? Is she meeting your needs? Is she a "fox" in the bedroom? Does she go out of her way to please you? You need to ask yourself all these questions before you will be able to come up with a solution. A lot of women think that a man should just be able to have sex with them without them putting any effort into it. Dont be so hard on yourself because maybe you are not the problem. It takes two, always takes two, so maybe instead of seeing this as your problem, talk to your wife, tell her how you feel, work on ways to spice up your relationship. If it is not a physical things, if it is a boredom thing, then the problem is with both you and your wife, not just you. If it is a medical thing, then you need to go see about it. Only you can work out which one it is.
2006-10-08 08:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would tell you to begin with that you are not old, you have a bit more wear and tear, but you are still the same. I am 55 and I feel young, of course sometimes things hurts where I did not even knew that place existed but I still keep going on.
Talking about disappointing your wife, (if it is what I think) they are many ways to make her feel good inside and out. Try different things. We think that because we are older we cannot go to different types of stores and get little games to play and lotions to me us more virile. But my friend you can do that and I am sure you wife will be glad that she has a husband that cares enough to sometimes embarrass himself by going to such stores. Good wishes to you.
2006-10-08 15:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you disappoint her. Maybe you are being to hard on yourself. I know no one wants to feel like they are getting older but we are and I am grateful for everyday on Earth GOD grants me. Try to appreciate what you do have and not lose today looking back at yesterdays gone by!
2006-10-08 15:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by ?? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only do what you can do, and if she loves you she'll understand that. Hang in there, and just remind her how much you love her. Good luck to ya!
2006-10-08 15:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by Paulda37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you can .. your wife loves you. Right ? Good Luck! :)
2006-10-08 15:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
viagra dude
2006-10-08 15:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She understands!!
2006-10-08 15:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋