What do I do about this?
I'm a sophomore in college and at the beginning of this semester my best friend and I started dating and he became my bf. We have known each other for over a yr now. But I told him we had no romantic chemistry together (when we kissed it was awkward and not very good) he agreed and said that he'd been meaning to talk to me about it. Well it has been less than a wk since that talk and I have realized that I got too attached to him bc now I have no close friends and I miss terribly. I'm a very shy person and I think I may have social anxiety. I know I didn't like my friend but now all I can do is think about him and how it makes no sense that he would go from completely liking me and hanging out with me every day to not even calling me now. I did call him and we talked but things aren't the same.Now i seem 2 clingy! Could he had been lying about no longer liking me? Was it just lust? and What can I do to find friends here in campus? Any tips or comments
2006-10-08 07:56:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Remember a couple of things - you're in college to get an education and that you are young. Chalk this up as part of your education in life and go on with your life - don't get so hung up on just one guy at such a young age. Concentrate on your studies and give it your all. College is a great time as long as you can balance the education along with the social aspects - the key is finding that balance.
2006-10-08 08:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by Been_there_done_that 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you may have just scared him off for a little while. On the other hand, I think that you are worrying too much about everything. Try to relax a little. If you feel uncomfortable in social situations, try asking one person in your class to help you study or something. One-on-one contact is sometimes less pressure than being in a large group. See if you can find something on the bulletin boards with your interests such as a yoga group or a book reading group that gets together every so often. That way you can get together with people and you know that you will have at least one thing to talk about because you are all there for the same reason.
2006-10-08 15:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by star28mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join a club or a study group or something like that and get out there and meet people. even if you suggest to someone in your class that you go get a cup of coffee. dating often ruins friendship, and you don't want to seem too clingy so give him time to call you next. sounds like you were using him as a crutch. stand on your own and see where that takes you. good luck.
2006-10-08 15:04:50 · answer #3 · answered by kajunprincezz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to make friends join a club a or some sport so you can get some self-esteem and meet friends. this way you can meet friends and possibly another guy to like
2006-10-08 15:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by mickey_ds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt like you anymore
2006-10-08 15:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋