ij ust cant seems to shake the feeling that istill love my ex boy friend he is also married he lives in india and me in usa i despreatly want to know what is happeniong in his live andhow is he. iam going nuts with these thoughts
2006-10-08 07:56:00 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Firstly, I would be honest with my feelings and tell my husband about your thoughts...dreams.
If you are dreaming about him, I think you are subconsciously trying to work through this issue.
You don't have to act on these feelings, just reckognize them.
Chances are that after 11 years your ex-boyfriend has changed...as have you. You probably have less in common today.
I think the reason you may be having these thoughts are because you are missing emotional intimacy with your husband.
Good luck.
2006-10-08 07:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by Boler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way that it sounds to me is that you must be having some problems in your marriage and you are trying to bring your old boyfriend into the picture. If you have been married to this man for 11yrs then you should be able to cope with whatever is happening in your marriage. You should not want to try and get in touch with your ex-boyfriend and ruin his marriage & happy life because you are unhappy. That is being very Selfish! Why don't you try and put your marriage back together and instead of Dreaming of a good time with your ex- boyfriend you should have a good time with your husband in reality!
Good Luck!
2006-10-08 10:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dreams indicate that your current relationship is lacking in some areas.
Your dreams are from you secretly wanting things to change, but don't feel you can.
You have just reached a slump in your marriage right now.
You need to plant your feet back on the ground and do a reality check.....because 11yrs is a long time...and your ex boyfriend's life has changed.
2006-10-08 08:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by sweetcitywoman2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are thinking of him alot that would explain why he is in your dreams. Usually people are symbols in dreams, but I wouldn't say so in this case. You need to do some serious talking with a counselor and figure out what you want to do with your life. Its not fair to your husband for you to be involved, in your mind and dreams, with your ex. If there are children involved, it could be tragic.
2006-10-08 08:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry, you dont love your Ex.
Did you have se*x in the last 2-3 days? I think not.
This is just your se*x drive expressing itself thru your subconcious.
Just talk to your husband about your physical needs clearly and tell him that if does not satisfy you, you dream of your ex. You will activate the competition streak in him and he will constantly satisfy you. If you are physically content, you wont have such dreams
2006-10-09 01:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i appreciate your feeling for him, the best thing is to keep him in dreams itself otherwise ur life will become nightmare for yourself. i know you can't stop thinking about him at this time but try to meditate and that will help you to control yourself. basically u haven't met him for 11 yrs thats the only reason now thats bothering u in your dreams. try to concentrate on your family rather than ur ex and let it be ex itself.
2006-10-12 04:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by Hidimba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. he's on your mind so you dream about him. i've seriously been there. do you love your husband? are you happy with him? if you are, chalk it up to a great sex dream and leave it be. remember that if your husband finds out you're in contact with him, it won't look so good and it will hurt the man you love. good luck.
2006-10-08 08:12:15 · answer #7 · answered by kajunprincezz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to redirect your thoughts, and stop wasting so much energy on him, move on with your life, You most have too much time on your hands. Do things to make your husband happy, that is where your priority should be. Put your energy on making your marriage strong and wholesome!
2006-10-08 08:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt that way once. I ran into the old boyfriend and thought "what was I thinking" You probably only remember the good things.
2006-10-08 08:00:19 · answer #9 · answered by Hamish 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly to tell you the fact you stated it replaced into your fault which you and him satarted this so your only buying the sin you commeted and on your sister as properly. so a strategies as him bothering you and your sister you purely ought to placed the law enforcement officers on and or circulate away and tell your sister to divorce him, using fact i can inform you this is going to get worst from right here on out. Sorry stable success.
2016-10-19 01:00:05 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋