my wife had an affair, why do I think about it all the time.Problem is it kinda turns me on. Our sex life had never been better. Does anyone else after a spouse had s cheated think about it in that way ? not a joke look at other questions I've asked. it was a long time ago that she had it and told me about it about 8 months ago. I am not leaving her so keep the stupid dump her to yourself :)
2006-10-08 07:18:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
actually i think in a way its quite normal. the thought of your wife sexually with someone else can be a turn-on. you could use this to your advantage! do role playing with her where you pretend to be someone else and talk dirty to one another...have fun!
2006-10-08 07:26:35 · answer #1 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can see the way you are thinking, it is basically the same as wanting your wife to be the prettiest lady at a party. You are turned-on by the thought of someone else finding her desirable, only in this case they desired and got her. But now she is back with you and you feel like the king once more.
Try not to dwell on it too long though otherwise you run the risk of 'pushing' her into other affairs.
2006-10-08 14:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by Courage 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that the one time affair has bettered your sex lives. Its not quite the theraputic cure I'd suggest but it worked for the both of you.
You let the past stay there and if you're fine with it....bravo.
Nice to hear a good end to one of these stories
2006-10-08 15:10:57 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think marriage counseling would be helpful to you and your wife. IMHO it's not the affair that was/is the problem, but the dishonesty inherent in an affair that is the larger issue.
2006-10-08 15:18:41 · answer #4 · answered by bookyone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it is not a joke honey , if it is something you like and want to imbrace this is in your marriage then i see nothing wrong with it. it called an open relationship or open marriage...maybe it is something you both can enjoy if thinking this turns you on? so talk it over because two have to feel the same way about it 100%. maybe she would be turned on by knowing the hole thing turns you on!
2006-10-08 14:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by kierstead 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband had an affair a couple of years ago i don't feel turned on about but because of the affair are marrige has been better because the affair showed us are problems and we fixed them and are communication is better so in turn are sex life is better....as it being a turn on definetly not but i don't see a problem with that
2006-10-08 14:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by christina c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is not socially accepted to think about your wife in that manner. the question you need to ask is this a fantasy or do you want it to be a reality. I have thought about my wife with other males and females, so no as long as it is a fantasy then enjoy what it brings you
2006-10-08 14:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by Why are you still here 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it turns you on, you should talk to her about inviting a diferent party into the bedroom on occasion. As long as youre careful and there's no hard feelings, sometimes it's fun to play like adults. You might be surprised how many people are open minded like that, now.
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2006-10-08 14:25:34 · answer #8 · answered by Maggz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cool, I love to know my lady has a sex drive, it's the dishonesty that is the concern.
2006-10-08 14:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ditto.
2006-10-08 14:24:15 · answer #10 · answered by always 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋