We have always gone out a lot both with our own friends and together. I haven't been able to go out for the last few months as have been pregnant. (now 8 months) He still goes out late and i can't go out with my friends as they are out partying. (I do other things with them but come sat night people don't want to stay in with pregnant lady, only sometimes) our relationship is perfect in every other way. I know he is definitely not seeing someone else, he just likes to party. I feel so frustrated as i am missing the social life and i don't think its fair that he is out all sat night and not home til late sunday night having a great time while i am home alone. He says he will come but once he is out i can cry and beg and he won't come home. Should i go to pub/club and embarrass him in front of his friends who will see me and not approve of his being out or is this going too far?
2006-10-08 07:17:44 · 21 answers · asked by Caroline 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him of your concerns and give him the opportunity to fix it. He might be going out without because he doesn't feel you would have a good time. When I was pregnant my husband stayed in with me, but I would have been ok with him going out because at 8 months all I wanted to do is SLEEP. He might just be getting his last parties in before the big occasion, so that he can stay in and take care of you and the baby. Now if this continues after the baby comes or after you tell him you want him to stay in more, then you have a problem. Don't go embarassing him, especially if you have a good relationship otherwise, it might lead to problems. Just add all of those saturdays up and when baby comes...HE OWES YOU!!!
Best Wishes and Congrats on the baby!!!
2006-10-08 07:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your b/f needs to straighten up his act, he is about to be a father and good supportive fathers don't leave their g/f and child at home while he goes out and party. When the baby comes, you will need his help tremendously. It's not fair for you to stay at home and take care of the kid while he parties. He has a family now so he needs to learn some responsibility. After the baby comes, you need to lay some groud rules and get serious. At some point in time, he has got to change his partying ways. If he doesn't, then you need to consider leaving him to show him how serious you are because obviously he is not taking you seriously and is taking you for granted. Tell him his partying will not be tolerated because you need his help with the baby. You didn't make the baby by yourself, he should be there for you both. Would if something happened to you or the baby in the middle of the night. Your b/f has got to make some changes. He has a family now, his partying days are over. He's just going to have to accept that fact, but oviously it's not clicking in his head yet. So if you can tolerate it until the baby gets here, then try to work with him and let him have his fun while he can. If he doesn't change after the baby is born, then you should take a break from him for a while. I bet he'll change his ways by then. If you're going to do everything by yourself, you might as well be by yourself.
2006-10-08 14:30:50 · answer #2 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and have a serious conversation. Don't wait until he's gone out and then cry over it. You're in a tough situation right now and it is frustrating. My college roomate was in your same position, guys just don't realize what they're doing is stupid sometimes... you need to actually tell him to calm down with the partying because he can't read your mind. With guys you actually have to state things that you would think they should actually know.... Don't listen to these people being rude to you obviously they don't realize that when people are asking questions they don't need to be ridiculed or get stupid answers and also...don't go out and embarass him or go out and party...trying to embarrass him will just cause an argument between the two of you and bars will be putting yourself in a smokey environment and thats not good for the baby. Good luck with this just let him know... He needs to start preparing for father hood...your 8 months pregnant and if you don't make him realize he needs to slow down know imagine what it'll be like when your stuck home alone with the baby
2006-10-08 14:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by travelgrl85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he comes home and sobers up, I would have a long heart to heart discussion with him! I would tell him that once the baby is born, things are going to be different, and right now-you'd like him around as well anyway! You don't want to be left alone at home. What if you go into labor and he's out getting drunk with his friends?!? He needs to grow up NOW or he'll never change once that baby comes!! If the talk doesn't help, you need to leave him and raise the baby yourself. You'll find yourself still crying, but at least it won't be because your man is out partying still. You'll be alone, but because you chose to be. And maybe because you're better off being alone. Good luck.
2006-10-08 14:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when the baby is born you no longer have a social life you nor him and the baby the two of you suppose to be worrying about not partying all the time and no don't go to any pub/club or any place to embarrass him tell him how feel you feel let him know that not only you suppose be responsible for the baby but he has to be worrying about the baby and you are feeling that you are going through this yourself without any help from him and you would like for him to stay home with you to help you with certain things
2006-10-08 14:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by Rivelle W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you need to take care of you! You say that your relationship is perfect in every other way....you need to sit him down and talk to him about this. If he really cares he will understand and be willing to do what he needs to to support you and your soon to arrive baby! If you are already 8 months along, the little one could arrive at any moment and a sober driver to the hospital is what you need. Reminding him that being on baby watch might be what he needs to stick closer to home and do a little less drinking. If he doesn't understand or isn't willing to make some changes for you and the baby...RED FLAG! Do what you need to do you YOU! Take care, good luck, and Congrats on the soon to arrive bundle!
2006-10-08 14:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by cwelsh121 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lower yourself.
If your presence embarrasses him, the problem is far deeper than just his wanting to party.
He is what he 'is' and if that means he does not feel the need to stay close to you, at eight months pregnant, he likely will never be much of a companion.
A loving supportive man would be doing all he can, at this time, to make life easier and more comfortable for you and his new baby.
2006-10-08 14:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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When she woke up late in the morning light,
And the day had just begun
She opened up her eyes and thought, oh what a morning.
It's not a day for work, it's a day for catching tan
Just laying on the beach and having fun
She going to get you.
All that she wants, is another baby,
She's gone tomorrow boy,
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Whisper
All that she wants, all that she wants
So if you are in sight and the day is right
She's a hunter you're the fox
The gentle voice that talks to you
Won't talk forever
It's a night for passion,
But the morning means goodbye
Beware of that is flashing in her eyes
She's going to get ya
All that she wants, is another baby,
She's gone tomorrow boy,
All that she wants, is another baby, hey.
All that she wants, is another baby,
She's gone tomorrow boy,
All that she wants, is another baby, hey.
All that she wants, is another baby,
She's gone tomorrow boy,
All that she wants, is another baby, hey
All that she wants, is another baby,
She's gone tomorrow boy,
All that she wants, is another baby, hey
2006-10-08 14:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, don't do that, you will not embarass him as much as you will embarass yourself.
Concentrate on your baby to be, and when it arrives, make sure your boyfriend's name is on the birth certificate, as it seems like he will have to be forced into being responsible.
2006-10-08 14:21:50 · answer #9 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
psh leave him he's not worth it there's someone better for you and believe it or not there are guys out there that would take you and the child because not only would they love to be with you but they wouldnt mind being there for the child if he does this now when your pregnent then what is keeping him from doing the same when you have the child
2006-10-08 14:21:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋