would you marry a girl who is once raped by someone and is also pregnant because of it?
2006-10-08 06:47:35 · 16 answers · asked by must read 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you love her? Do you respect her? Do you blame her? If your answers are not yes,yes,no...she deserves better.
2006-10-08 17:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you already planned on getting married and you love her then you wouldn't have to ask that question. You would be supportive of the tragic abuse she has been through.
Is she going to have the baby? If she is that shows she has a really big heart despite the tragic trauma that she has gone through and this would be a very hard decision that any woman would have to make. She is going to need all the support she can get.
She definately doesn't need someone she loves to turn their back on her for something she had no control over, you need to step up and be there for her even though she is pregnant, you just need to remind yourself that it wasn't something she did wrong and think about how hard it is for her to be pregnant by rape and how strong and brave she is for not taking her anger out on an innocent child that became of such a tragedy.
best of luck
2006-10-08 13:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by mom_in_love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, if I was a guy. Because
1.) It wouldn't matter if she was raped - it wasn't HER fault.
2.) The child didnt ask for the father to be an @sshole rapist.
3.) You could be a father to that child and what a gift that is!
You need to not worry that she was raped...but how you feel about having an instant family. The child wont be yours by blood but really, you can adopt that child and then it's yours in any way that matters. Are you ready to be a dad? Can you love that child like no other? Because now she has a child coming and you have to accept both.
That takes a big man. :)
Good luck, make the right choice.
2006-10-08 13:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by Miz_Kassandra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not her fault she was raped. If she is pregnant it wasn't that long ago that she was raped. Were you two together when this happened. If not why would you want to get married so fast. But as long as you love each other it shouldn't matter. The baby would know you as the dad, and not the a**hole that raped his or her mother. Good Luck
2006-10-08 13:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That shouldn't be the basis of marrying or not marrying someone. How compatible are the two of you and can you handle the fact of being a father to a child that is not your own?
2006-10-08 13:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by Curious George 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a girl raped by someone and pregnant, is not her fault, if she know, she will not willing. if you really love she, i think you will take it in your mind. this badthing happened in her, she also sad and hurt in it, if you gone away and broke up with she, i think she cannot suffer the painful of all thing. if like that, i think now she most need her lover accompany she to over this sadness.
2006-10-08 16:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by ying 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to punish her for something bad that happened to her. If you were married and your wife was raped would you leave her.
2006-10-08 15:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot of baggage with this one.
What happens to the child, adoption? Then maybe.
No way I bite off that responsibility. There is just not enough
charity in my heart to raise this child.
2006-10-08 14:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello? Can we say VICTIM!? She did nothing wrong. And she's very brave for carrying the child. She sounds like an incredible person.
2006-10-08 13:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by queenblafalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not marry anyone who already has children.
2006-10-11 23:19:23 · answer #10 · answered by me8md 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋