My due date was Oct. 5th. I'm going to the hospital today (Sunday) and the dr. said i should have my little baby tomorrow (monday)! :) I'm so excited cant wait to see my little man...
The problem is, my husband works out of town, well he came in friday, and yestarday (Saturday) he called once and started crap with me so he told me to find someone to take me to the Dr. Sunday. and that he was going back to go to work. So i hung up the phone and he has not call or anything, and here it is sunday and i go to the hospital in about 2 and 1/2 hrs. and he still hasnt called to check on me or anything. I want him to be there but i dont want any stress from him or him wanting to start stuff with me while im getting ready to have a baby. What should i do, leave him alone and let him go back to work and miss our child being born or what? I dont know what to do please help.
2006-10-08 06:36:36 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It his loss. Heck, I was there for my son, had my Camera and Catcher's Mitt. It was sooooo fun and everyone had a good time. Sad, he not want to be there. No job in the world would have caused me to miss the birth of my son.
2006-10-08 06:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off he's probably stressed too, this time is hard on the fathers just like the mother, that does NOT excuse his actions, stress from him is the last thing you need. Second, I would call him and tell him you're going to the hospital and every labor is different you could have this baby within hours of getting there, he needs to understand that. Third, give him the option, but if he chooses to not be there, I would seriously consider your marriage. He created this baby and you've done the work, now is his time to take responsibility and be there for you and your baby. You can only do so much, but leave it up to him and see where you and the baby stand with him. Good luck and I'm sorry you're going through this, especially right now.
2006-10-08 06:41:43 · answer #2 · answered by justwondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get yourself a support system, either you mother, sister, mother in law, friend, some people you can trust who you know love you, and see about them going to the hospital with you.
Enjoy your labor, look forward to your baby. Rest as much as you can at the hospital before returning home.
Dont bother calling your husband. This behavior is grounds for a divorce. Iam NOT someone who thinks divorce is the answer, I tend to try to find the logical reasons behind peoples irrational behaviors... but this.... this is wrong on all levels.
Pack your things once you get back from the hospital, and go to your mothers, or some place else. I dont care if its a hotel on his credit card. Get out, get a lawyer, and leave this worthless piece of shiot.
If this is how he acts now about this child, and you, how do you think its going to be when the child presents a very real and pressing need as an infant and toddler?
Neglect is only a step away from full out abuse. And this is as horrible as it gets. You and your child are worth more than this.
Dont bother with that man again. I dont care if he's scared, or lost, or confused, or whatever half assed excuse he might have. This is WRONG lady, wrong. You need to see it for what it is and move the hell on.
2006-10-08 06:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL if he really wanted to be there he would be calling you non stop and making every attempt to be there unfortunately he is being plain cold I dont think its right this child will only be born once personally I would go on with what i got to do if he goes he goes and if he dont OH WELL its his bad and he will feel like the a$% in the end girl I have been there just worry about your baby and you thats all that matters right now not him and his selfishness good luck and remember everything will be ok:)
2006-10-08 06:47:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call him and tell him he doesn't want to miss this! He will regret not being there to watch his son come into this world. Trust me, no matter what arguments or what your moods are before hand, once your there in the hospital, it all seems to go away. Your there celebrating the birth of your child, and that is something so special!
2006-10-08 06:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you my husband would never, even with this pregnancy, which he was not thrilled about would let me do anything alone.
I want something sweet, even tough he is upset, he'll throw on a sweater and run to 7/11, no complaints, much less not even concider going to the hospitol with me.
My heart is w/you. Just try to stay calm. Maybe he is on his way and you dont know it.
I cant imagine why he is acting this way. Maybe he is nervous.
Hang in there!
2006-10-08 07:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by Make u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience...
Leave him alone, let him pay the consequences of not being there. Have someone go with you that you have a strong bond with that will support you and comfort you.
From what you said, he is being mentally abusive and you don't need that kind of stress. This is a wonderful part of your life that should be joyful and happy. Not stressed and miserable. So let him be the jerk somewhere else and you enjoy your baby and what you have ahead of you.
2006-10-08 06:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by rainysnana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, not really sure how to answer this question, but I hope you have someone that can be there with you even if it's not your husband. I do know he will be missing out on a miracle!! Hopefully he will come to his sences and be there for you and your child. Good luck!!!! This should be a happy joyful time, not one full of stress and drama.
2006-10-08 06:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy is a very stressful time for not only you, but everyone around you....women feel it's "all about them" and guess what-it is....your husband needs to grow up and be by your side...does he have a brother, friend, father who can give him a kick in the butt??you don't need this crap right now...
I hope everything works out for you...GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR NEW BUNDLE
2006-10-08 06:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by Kerilyn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry about your situation! What your husband is doing is not right. Since it doesnt seem like you can talk any sense into him, maybe you can call his mother or father or a family member to slap some real sense into him so he can be there for you and ur baby. Congrats on your new baby!
2006-10-08 06:40:35 · answer #10 · answered by swtest2lips 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋