Ok, I went to the clinic to put myself on birth control and the doctor said that she was worried about me because I had said that I had more than 5 sex partners this year. She said that it probably has a lot to do with my beauty. I feel horrible, I broke my fast for Ramadan and I ended up having sex with my boyfriend. I don't understand, it's really hard for me to say 'no' to a guy who says he wants sex. I don't even like to have sex. Why am I like this?
2006-10-08 06:32:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
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"They wanted me and I wanted to be seen and held. I knew it wouldn't last for long, but for that moment I knew I was someone, that I existed."
The quote is from the diary of a once promiscuous woman that has Bipolar2. I think there is much truth in what she said. It's about affirmation, to be seen. It's not about wanting to have sex, it about wanting to feel that someone focuses on you as a person, even if it won't last for forever.
2006-10-08 06:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by *duh* 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, sometimes women think they need to please men in order to keep them or for them to love them. It's not new but you should really take a look at yourself.
I don't believe you have to be married to have sex but I DO think that you should wait until you love your bf and can see the two of you staying together before having sex.
If your bf pressures you into sex then he probably isn't the one for you, you should talk to him and say you want to cool things down for a while. If he doesn't understand then can you see yourself with someone who forces you into sex?
You really should from the start of a relationship, once you know that you will be seriously dating, talk with him to explain your feelings, when you are ready to have sex with them you will let him know. If he can't handle it, then there is other sexual activitives you can do other then full blown sex.
I hope this helps, good luck
2006-10-08 13:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by Karce 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of two things, either you just made up this story. Because if you honor Ramadan you would be very unlikely to screw around.
the other would be psychological issues. My guess is that your beauty is the only power you feel in your life. And when men want to sleep with you, you feel powerful
2006-10-08 13:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's because it makes you feel beautiful when you have sex. You are beautiful, but you need to stop. Just tell yourself that you know you are beautiful without having to have sex.
2006-10-08 13:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by Gloria B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your on a ego trip.This makes you feel desired,get off that trip before you find yourself dying of aids.beauty comes from within.
2006-10-08 13:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by gwhiz1052 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my guess is that you are looking for acceptance and that is one way that you know you can get it, by the way tell your boy friend he si a f*cking a*s hole for pressuring you into breaking your ramadan fast, that is really lame!
2006-10-08 13:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by ninja cat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I pray God helps and guides you in this Month Of Ramadhan.
2006-10-08 13:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by Muslimah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just show me your face fr me to decide if i want to sex with you.then u decide u r beauty r ugly beast.
2006-10-08 14:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by zainul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because men are very manipulative, and you want to please him. They will say and so anything to get what they want...and ofcourse ALL men want SEX!!!!
2006-10-08 21:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by vaasam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cuz they are hitting it right
2006-10-08 13:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by bigboss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋