why is it that a lot of women stay with partners who are violent?

Question

don't they want to live in peace and not be hurt by these men

Answer 1

These women have slowly been brainwashed to think that they deserve the treatment they are receiving from the man. It doesn't start out as abuse. Things go well for a while then she does something he doesn't like. He apologizes and things go well. Then he hits her again. Each time he apologizes and each time things go well for a while. Things slowly escalate over a long period of time. Each incident builds on the other and the man knows just what to say to make the woman think it is her own action and her fault that caused him to hit her. It really is a form of brainwashing.

Answer 2

human beings in that state stay for many motives. usually, there is wish that their companion will substitute their evil procedures, and bypass returned to the guy they fell in love with. some would p.c. to bypass away, yet have been beat down so badly, they are afraid to bypass out into the international on my own. They experience inferior, and who does no longer? right here, the guy who's meant to love you, and cope with you ideal, is putting you down. If even that guy or woman thinks so lowly of you, then why could every person else think of extraordinarily? They experience that consistent with probability that's their fault for their companions abuse. you besides mght could evaluate that the abuser isn't in a consistent state of abusing. there are a number of moments in between wherein that guy or woman is nice and worrying, and the abused stay for those moments. They experience that, even nonetheless they frequently bypass off, deep down the abuser rather does care, yet they only can not administration their anger, and consistent with probability that's my fault for no longer doing a stable job. so as that they want that they are in a position to maintain the the candy and loving area of the abuser, and artwork so no longer common to accomplish that. they do no longer understand that no remember how no longer common they attempt, the abuser will continuously locate something to ***** approximately and blow up approximately. The abused could have 20 initiatives and finished 18 of them completely, however the abuser will yell on and on approximately how tousled the two different jobs have been. there is not any attractive an abuser, however the abused frequently think of (or wish) there is.

Answer 3

Low self-esteem, no confidence sometimes cowardice, and the fear of rejection comes to mind. Women say that they can't leave, because of the children, he will change,and so on and so forth. The men have belittled them so much, they start to think their is no way out. Until some thing drastic happens, then unfortunately these women will stay with these type of partners. Too many times, we read that women have died from physcial abuse, and yet it is going on in thousand's of homes. Their are so many agencies and the like to help these type of women, but at the end of the day, only the lady herself will have to ask for the help.

Answer 4

Physical violence goes with mental violence and when a man treats you like that it knocks your confidence that you even become competent to think for yourself and when a man is so violent that you know they are capable of murder and they drum this into your head that if you leave they will hunt you down ,you just know in your heart that they will,there is not enough support for women going through this,yes refuges can help out but violent dads still get access to kids and eventually find out where the woman lives.I had a violent ex and sometimes i would be to scared to breath to loudly as it would upset him,i would have to sleep on the bedroom floor,i couldn't make him meals and when i never he hit me for not making them,men like this go out of their way to make women's lives as hateful and hurtful as possible,i left my ex on a spur of the moment thing i felt if i never left when i did i would have killed him and lost my kids and my life for a loser,the only way i had peace was to move 250 miles away and lose all touch with family and friends.

Answer 5

I was in that type of situation in my first marriage its not that you like the situation your in, but that you keep thinking they will change after they hit you they tell you how sorry they are and wouldn`t blame you if you left them but their hoping you will give them another chance,and because you love them and want to believe what their saying is true ,you stay then kids come into the picture and you stay for them after awhile you do try to leave and they find you and make threats about if you don`t come back they will either kill you or take the kids somewhere where you will never see them again so back to the hell you go again.These men are good at making you believe your nothing nobody else but them would want you and that you should be thankfull that they do want you.They also make you believe its your fault that they hit you.you walk on egg shells around them trying your best not to upset them,they are like a time bomb ready to explode at any given time over any situation you are very terrified of them and what could happen.But some like me finally do get the courage to get out and you find out you can make it on your own and once they know your serious about not going back they leave you alone but others are not so lucky their husbands carry out the threat to kill them even those who had a restraining order against their husbands have turned up dead pretty messed up situation hugh.The man I am married to now has never hit me and we have been married for 25 years but I took my time to get to know him and what his personality was like and how he reacted when he did get mad and if there was any signs of violence before I did marry him

Answer 6

It really comes down to insecurity. Most people that are abused think (for some crazy reason) that they somehow deserve it. NO ONE deserves to be abused. But they feel too embarrassed and ashamed to leave or even tell anyone else about it. They also think that they can change their own actions in order make things get better, but it really has nothing to do with them, it's the abusive person that needs to change. And quite honestly, they RARELY change.

Answer 7

Because I think when they met they see the good side and that is the side they fall in love with. Then after a while things get ugly and they want out but they are believed that their man loves them even though he is controlling and abusive they are told I love you and i am sorry to many times.

Answer 8

this is such a hard question??? i have known friends and myself to be in situation like this and i asked them why, now mine only happened in two occasion but i am not excusing it. friends of my have been through it for years and when i got out of it i asked them why they stuck around and their reasons all lead back to the same thing that they loved the man and other reasons were maybe they had it coming and were asking for it they told me and i would counsel them and say, no matter how angry the person get with you in a argument or disagreement there is no need for a guy to beat two colours of sh*t out of them. it's just not right and if we could make them listen that there are better men out there then these people who think their men but in stand are cowards and can only adventure there anger out on woman cause it's showing them they are HARD MEN!!! what do u think? sorry it so long but had alot to say.

Answer 9

woman who get hit by these thugs are scared to leave, they have low self esteem of there self therefore believing they are totally reliant on that thug, and with out him they have nothing NOT TRUE LADIES its hard to walk away! but they will when they have enough strength to do so but until then they will stay with that animal. 9 times out of 10 that woman's family have distant themselves from that woman because of her partner, but when they walk away from it for good they will have more family and friends round them to support them and help that woman to regain respect for herself along with pride and strength to carry on through life and when the time is right they will meet a nice genuine guy who will treat them the opposite to how they have already been treated. it is hard to walk away from someone when they scare you into believing there threats or follow you constantly until you give in, don`t listen to there words has they are lies once a thug always a thug so any ladies out there in this situation find the strengh to get out of this relationship has it isn`t love it is control and a kick for that thug you will be much better of.

Answer 10

Because that's all they probably know. It's very sad! Or they don't feel good about themselves anyways so.. It's nice to have some sort of attention. Even if it's negative attention.