What is the relationship between a man and a woman?

Question

what is attraction? what is lust? what is love? what's the difference between these three?
is it better to be a monogamous, or to be in a open relationship?
what is the difference between a marriage and a relationship?
if sex is such an intimate thing, then why do so many people end up in bed just because they are attracted to each other? is it correct to do so? should one act on attraction or wait for the right one to come?
who is the right one? when will s/he come? what if you wait around for the 'right one' and s/he never comes?
can you love (romantic love) more than one person at the same time?

Answer 1

Let me start with lust. Lust is taking, or the desire to take (to have ones own desires fulfilled). Love is giving, or the desire to give and to see the loved one fulfilled. Both of these states can coexist for a lover (romantic sense) will desire to fully possess his/her beloved while also wishing to be fully possessed by them. However lust without love is the desire to take without giving.

Attraction (romantic sense) is aroused by some quality in another that we admire and desire to be associated with - it is not always correct to act on attraction because you might be attracted to someone unavailable (married for instance).

I have never been romantically in love with more than one person at any one time so I don't know if it is possible or not. However, based on my experience of being in love I'd say it was fairly unlikely - romantic love at it's height is all consuming and is completely focused on the loved one (not two). At this point the person (or both parties if it is requited love) wants only the loved one and having the same level of intense relationship with another would be impossible - or if the loved one was in such a relationship the lover would suffer greatly for being unable to possess her/him. Therefore true lovers desire monogamy.

Marriage is a formal commitment (a contract in fact) to be monogamous. It is accepted as such by the state and/or religion involved as a pact to love even after the 'in love' stage has passed. A monogamous relationship may be the same thing and may be privately intended to last but it is not formally recognized by state or church. The chief difference may be that the first is harder to break up than the second - and this may get some couples through difficult patches without their prematurely separating.

Act on attraction by all means and if it proves mutual it may be the foundation of finding out if the other person is 'the right one' - but this doesn't mean have sexual intercourse with everyone you may be attracted to. A person is usually attracted to lots of people, will love many in different ways, will probably only be romantically in love with one person at a time and may never know the 'right one' - unless they fall in love with one person, remain true to them in every circumstance, and love them (in many different ways) throught life - giving until they are entirely lost. And receiving the same so that they are never empty but always full. An ideal perhaps but one worth aiming for - falling somewhat short wouldn't be a bad experience.

Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds ...
William Shakespeare.

Answer 2

Is it a question or a questionnaire? As my knowledge about relationships is very limited, so I am not in a position to answer it properly, but I'll try.

Attraction: Its like magnetism. Two opposite poles of magnet attract each other, so does opposite sexes. But on second though this analogy sounds incorrect because there is attraction sometimes between similar sexes in humans while similar poles of manget always repel each other. But however it may be, personally I am always attracted towards women.

Lust: Lust is a wonderful feeling. It is a vital energy. It adds so much color to otherwise dull and boring life.

Love: Love is a great feeling as well. But love is more general while lust is specific. You can love the entire mankind, but lust is directed towards the object of your desire.

Monogamy vs. Free sex: I prefer the latter. Though a single woman can also satisfy the lust but if I have a choice I'll go for diversity.

Marriage and Relationship: Again relationship is general while marriage is specific. You have a relationship with entire humankind while marriage is relationship between man and wife.

Intimacy and Attraction: IMO its the same. And it is correct to do so. And if you are attracted to someone then he/she is the right one for you. But wait! If you are thinking about building a long-term relationship then you should look not only to the physical aspect of the relationship but also to its mental aspect, i.e. compatibility, understanding, etc.

OK: Wait for the right one but in the meantime occasional flirts and romances are also required, to keep your mind healthy, fresh, energetic and colorful.

NO: You should only love one person at one time. More than one romances, simultaneously, cause confusion, headache and sometimes you lose all of them, just for this reason.

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Answer 3

I am someone who enjoys life with someone in my life. Being intimate is a form of trust and enjoyment.

If two people are going to become an 'item' then they should be loyal to each other in every way. There should be no compromising each others feelings and trusts.

Being intimate allows for each partner to realize how much they care for each other and need each other. If you allow nature to take its course, the right one is just around the corner and so is love, trust and loyalty.

Answer 4

love is when you cant live w/ out that person in your life. they are the last thing you think of before you fall asleep and they are the first thing you think of when you wake up, love makes your life enjoyable. it is fulfillment and happiness to your life. love brings light upon your life

Answer 5

simple, a lot of frosting on the basic instinct to procreate,remember we are still animals first, hopefully we will love and cherish each other

Answer 6

Armed truce.

Answer 7

that's too much to answer. and all of the answers you get are going to be opinions. its what you think.

Answer 8

there probably a sense of guilt, i think you should know why