do i trust my husband or not?

Question

im a stay at home mom and my husband comes home late or dont answer my calls sometimes and when we go somewhere he is always looking around like he is looking for some one. i always think he is cheating on me but i also think that it might be just me worring to much because ever boyfriend i ever had has cheated on me. what should i do?

Answer 1

Based on your history I can understand why you think the way you do, but don't let it spoil your current relationship. It's always prudent to be on watch for signs of cheating but don't do overboard until you have something more concrete. Good luck!

Answer 2

If you don't trust him you have nothing anyway.
You must work on learning to trust him.
Don't make him pay for what other people have done!
If you don't trust him then he may feel completely JUSTIFIED TO CHEAT ON YOU and many people will agree with him.
So what if he looks around! Is he male?! Do you want a eunuch or a healthy man for your husband? They all look! We all look!
Also sounds like you have too much time on your hands. It is great to be a stay at home mom, but if you are calling him at work you may not have much of a life of your own. Maybe you need a hobby or a volunteer job to keep you busy and productive. Take the focus off him and on you. Improve yourself and your life.

Answer 3

I have 10 years exp. My husbend always came home late.And that lead into nights he did'nt come home at all. He would say "he drink to much and did'nt want to drive or car would'nt start, or if he left with friends they did'nt want to drive back to drop him off or he had to work extra hours . At frist I belived him.Then it got to be to much.My inside did not belive it no more.He also would not answer his phone he would say "he was to busy or he did'nt want his friends to think he was pussy wimp."And the looking around u said he doe's trust me he is.He gots lust on his mind.He don't answer the phone is because he with another girl.He comes home late is because he with another girl.And u say your x-boyfriends cheating on u well your getting the same feelings now like u did when they where cheating on u. You don't what to believe it now because it's your husbend. I can understand . The only way your going to find out . 1 don't accuse him is hard to do but step back and watchmark the days and times he comes in late don't let him know your doing this.DON'T. 2 if you can pay for a p.i. do it. I could'nt so i did my own p.i work sometimes i get the kids badysitter or they come they did'nt know what was going on.I told them diffrent things or if it late I make them a bed in the back and I followed him . And thats how I found out. I rushed back home and acting like I was at home the hole time.When I asked him how was your day or where u deen he totally told me lies I keep cool and it was hard to do. I would following him again.And when the time was right I told him. Truth comes out. You may forgive and they dogood for a little while they cheat again. Trust me your husbend cheating.Do what u have to do to find out don't lose time and hoping your going to get your self sick by not knowing the truth.Life is to short.

Answer 4

talk to him. Tell him how you feel! See what he says to that, that you think he's cheating. Trusting can be very very hard to do, especialy after been hurt so many times. In my case, It's taken time and lots of patients to trust my man. I was cheated on, and hurt so much in the past! Trust him a little more each day.
He's got to give you something to show that he's realy not cheating and if he loves you, he will do just that. It's not fair for my man to try a little harder for me to trust him, but it's because I was hurt so badly before him, so since he realy loves me, he wants to do anything and everything to make me feel trusting towards him. (3 years together now)

Answer 5

Leelee you might be calling too much or you have a gut feeling knowing your husband is doing something out of the norm.. Its ok for a man to look.. You have to check yourself are you hounding making the marriage crazy because you have the lack of trust? Find something to do during the day. or get a part time job to something else that makes you happy. You need to fill a void here

Answer 6

honey, My husband does the same thing, or when we go to like walmart, he will ask to split up to get the shopping done faster, he does look around alot like he is looking for someone. If you have any connections with his cell phone then call the provider and get a detailed bill (which means, the people that he calls, their phone number will show up on the bill, and some of the incoming calls will show up.) I did that with my husbands and found out he was talking to one of his ex girlfriends. You will be suprised. My husband also wont answer his phone when i call. wish ya like honey!

Answer 7

You need to sit your husband down and have a talk with him. Remember the key to a good marriage is communications, so ask him all of the things that you suspect. But I think you have the problem, you do not have to bring all of your pass experience into your marriage, you need to work on you, if you can't, then you need help. Learn to trust him, if not you are going to ruin your own marriage!

Answer 8

my dear,

1st, plz calm down and accept how you feel and think.
man hate woman checking on them. dont do that unless you've decided to take the risk.
2nd, if you wanan talk it over, plz make sure you've already accepted what 's coming up next. think of any kinds of posibilities.
you really gotta understand what's going on with yourself and his side.
3rd, it's always not the good thing to have the "fear" in the relationship. what's done is gone. you're living in the present world. dont care what happened before first, focus on what's on right now.
4th.... men can be the good liars. if you trust him, you should trust him totally. if he really cheat on you eventually, that's his bad, not yours. dont blame yourself.
5th, dont confront him too suddenly. you would be confused too.

good lcuk!!!

Answer 9

Talk to him and trust him. You are coming from a history of fear and distrust. Tell him you are afraid when he is late or doesn't answer his phone, and ask if you can have some kind of a deal where you don't bug him with too many calls, and he calls you when you don't expect it!

Answer 10

First just confront him. Do not accuse himm of anything. Just explain the behavior and tell him how it makes you feel. Your ex's have no relivance on the isue, and although it does affect you, bringing them in will just upset him.

Try talking to him more instead of asking us. ANd if you still feel suspicious than its over because either he is, or you are incapable of trusting him.