I made the biggest mistake of my life by leaving my ex boyfriend for another man, because I thought I loved the other man more than him. After 3 months, I 've realized that I want my ex back and that he really was my soulmate. The only problem is that he's with another girl, and after the way I left him, he doesn't want me back. But I love him more than I ever thought I could. I know deep in my heart that he's the one, but the woman he is currently with is perfect for him and I know I can't compete with her. Should I fight for him, or just try to move on?
2006-10-08 05:56:50 · 15 answers · asked by Lana L. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should move on. If he is your soul mate, you would have known it from the very beggining. It is not a good sign if you are planning on spending the rest of your life with a person that you broke up with.
2006-10-08 06:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by sdh22892 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some things in life are unexplainable. I would think that if he were your soulmate, you would have known it from the start. I did with my partner. Maybe you just realized that you were happier with the ex than you are now. But it is funny how things work out and why. Have you ever heard the saying, " Let him go and if he loves you he will come back."? Trust me when I say that when you meet your soulmate you will know it right away. This relationship reminds me of the saying, you dont know what you really have until its gone. Not, he was my soulmate, and I lost him. Keep searching and surely you will find him, and when you do, you will look back and realize you made the right decision. Good l,uck and I hope things work out for you.
2006-10-08 13:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by yourqueenofall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let him get away that fast. Tell him you love him and you want him more than anything. Beg him for another try. He might feel the same way deep inside. If he says he cant do that than tell him you will love him forever and nothing will take that love away. Maybe you just hadnt looked close enough and the guy that you really love is right infront of you.
2006-10-08 13:05:03 · answer #3 · answered by basketball_babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you did what everone these days do.. think there is big and better out there.. and when you did move on you now know what you had was th best you would ever have... and now you want that back well i dint know how you Brock it off with him but the way you said it i take it was bad and i think you should talk to him and see if there is a way you 2 can be together.... its all you can do and if he dint think there is well you should move on you are the one that want out and fall for this other man in the beginning and he is happy then you should be happy for him ..............
2006-10-08 13:06:44 · answer #4 · answered by bonnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you've got everything planned out perfectly, and life gets in the way. **** happens. And it sucks, and it hurts, and you won't enjoy yourself at all, but here's the reality: you'll be okay.
Don't ride your future on a man dating another woman, out of respect for his descisions, respect for that woman, and respect for yourself. If it was meant to be, it'll happen eventually. But for now, you're best bet is to let go, relax, cry it out, and spend some quality time healing and getting to know yourself again.
Remember: you are strong in yourself. You don't need him to live. Find your own goals and your own life. Once you're fully centered and peaceful in yourself, you won't need to have the word "compete" in your gallery: when the man that is right for you walks into your life, he will recognize a beautiful, self satisfied, and happy woman- and at that time you will have a lovely relationship and everything will be mostly smooth.
But for now, let go. Pursuing and competing only leads to pain and heartbreak for all involved parties. Maybe she is a better fit for him. Maybe you manage to break them up, and get him back- but now every once in a while, subconciously, he's comparing you to her. Do you want to live with that? Let go, and have some quality time with yourself to figure things out.
Best of luck!!!
2006-10-08 13:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by ckgalatea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He's happy and content. It's rude of u to expect him to drop everything because you want him back after leaving him for another man.
2006-10-08 13:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by Aidge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did what you wahted. Now you go on with your life.
Also seems like you only want what you can not have.
Next time, no before the next time try to figure out what is is you want in a relationship NOT how the realitionship makes you feel.
Luck on your life quest. ~;}
2006-10-08 13:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by ancestorhorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's made his choice. He doesn't want you back. What would be the point of fighting for him.? Move on.
PS - There's no such thing as a "soulmate."
2006-10-08 12:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a classic case of someone wanting what they don't have. You had your chance, move on....and remember that the grass is not always greener on the other side
2006-10-08 12:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really is your soulmate then fight for him. But if your not sure then think about it.
2006-10-08 12:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋