this boy jumped from the top of a building to end his life. he was unable to clear his medical entrance exam. he really wanted to be a doctor. but thank god he survived....
now he is recovering from fractures in hospital. i have been asked to help him by making him understand the importance of life and by counselling him.
give me some tips and ideas guys so i could help him.....
thanks and your contribution will be appreciated!!!
2006-10-08 05:50:49 · 9 answers · asked by .:NoDdY:. 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
for those who want his medical history:
a guy who prefers to think from his brain. has a dominating mother. was really hurt to find that he failed his entrance exam. problem began afterwards. he was worried of things people would say upon his failing. he thought he brought bad name for his parents.....
2006-10-08 06:02:32 · update #1
Let the guy know that you are there for him, and make sure that you, and as many other people he trusts are there to provide him with a non-judgmental, impartial shoulder to lean on. LISTEN to him. Don't advise him, don't tell him how he should be feeling, and PLEASE keep an eye on him. People who have tried suicide in the past are highly likely to try again.
Try to gather some local resources for him... a suicide hotline (1-800-SUICIDE), other local crisis centres, a counsellor. There is help out there, and it's your responsibility to ensure that he is aware of it.
2006-10-08 06:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused, why would you be asked to counsel him if you have no experience in that area? That could be really dangerous.
I suggest you contact a suicide hotline and get some advice from the professionals, take some detailed notes. There is too much for me to post here to help you.
One suggestion; he needs to understand that there is a loving God that cares for him and wants him to be on the right path. Obviously this boy needs some spiritual guidance in his life so he understands it has meaning. Medical entrance exams are not the most important thing in life and if he puts his life on the line for that, something is very wrong with his priorities. Most likely, it is based on what he learned as a child.
2006-10-08 12:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lets clear one thing up first. This person should NOT be a doctor. If he has such little regard for life to make such an irrational decision to try to end his own because of a failure, I certainly don't want to trust him with my family's health. So I strongly suggest that any advice along the lines of try try again is not appropriate in this situation. How many doctors, nurses and lawyers fail and feel terrible yet don't try to take their own lives? I am NOT suggesting you tell him that. That's just for you.
I would be very reluctant to take on too much responsibility for helping this person. It is very risky. Are you willing to accept the consequences and guilt if your efforts don't work and he kills himself. Even if you don't do anything wrong. Of course, doing nothing has it's own consequences.
So -
All I could do, as a non-professional, would be to try to convince him that failing to reach an important goal does not justify giving up on life. Many famous people have failed. I think I recall that Albert Einstein failed a math class. I'd point out that millions of people would like to be sports, movie or music superstars and don't make it. Yet the vast majority don't commit suicide. No, they try something else and go on to achieve some degree of success in life. If they had commited suicide they would have never had the chance to succeed at anything. I would also try to suggest that he consider alternate paths and point out that there are many which lead to a happy successful life.
2006-10-08 14:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by Wascal Wabbit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This boy needs to feel he is still a person. Don't treat him differently then you would anyone else. Don't be someone he feels he has to please. Let him be who he is, not what others want him to be. Support what he wants to do. You cannot make him understand the importance of life if you make yourself and others seem "better" then he is. He is the only person who knows what is important in his life (he may not know what this is yet). What he wants right now may be different from what he wants tomorrow and that is okay. He can change his mind in what he wants to do or what he wants out of life. Just like you can change yours. Him having to live up to what was important to others does not seem to have been working for him. He is not any less of a person for attempting suicide. If anything this experience will make him a better doctor (if that is what he wants). Don't try to make him someone he is not as you do not know who he is (he does not need the burden right now of having to try and please you too). The person you know him to be is from his "history" you have obtained from others. This may not even be the person he truly is or the person he is striving to be. Only what he has allowed others to see. Only time will tell. Until then you can only be there to support him to be him and learn who he is. He is probably a very gifted person.
2006-10-08 21:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by apes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have at some-point in our life been in a situation where suicide seems to be a solution to our problem.
Lets try to take our problem as a launch pad where we can start a very vibrant and productive life.
There is always a rainbow after every storm,lets wait for our rainbow and dig the treasure.
If we commit suicide and die people will pity for a short time and completely forgets about us,but if we turn the situation around and make the best of it people will remember us greatly for our brevity.
Good luck!
2006-10-08 13:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by Bluefaya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not positive... but Im pretty sure he won't try and do it again.
Your services were required BEFORE he attempted suicide.
I knew a girl that shot herself in the head though and was in treatment afterward...
That's a toughie. it is impossible to answer a question like that without knowing the patients morality and background. That is what a chart and a treatment plan is for and consists of... History!
2006-10-08 12:56:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Just let him know he is not alone, that people do care about him and his problems, and he can work it out. Good luck
2006-10-08 12:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by bubu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why didn't you try and help him? You must bear some of the burden of guilt. You don't sit by and do nothing when people want to kill themselves.
2006-10-08 13:04:10 · answer #8 · answered by wife of Ali Pasha 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boy, he went to great lengths to find a tutor.
2006-10-08 14:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by bs_batman_88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋