I found out , about a month ago, that my husband cheated on me the night before our wedding with a girl he let me be friends with for five years. Now I have told him that it will take time to get over it and he hasn't even tried he stays out till who knows what time making me sit up and wait, then when he gets home he doesn't even say sorry. So my question is What should I do and what steps do you think I should take?
2006-10-08 05:40:47 · 12 answers · asked by Christine R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't necessarily think he is cheating on you at the moment, but staying out to all hours of the night with his buddies is disrespectful especially if it makes you uncomfortable. Set some ground rules that will allow for compromise.
If he is going out he has to let you know and provide a time that he will be back and that this shouldn't be a regular occurrence.
2006-10-08 07:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry..but wish someone would've told ME this..would've saved me years of heartache!! The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. He should have told you up-front to allow you to decide what to do..Once a cheater...ALWAYS a cheater..If he has no more consideration for your feelings than to stay out all hours of the night after he has already cheated...I would let this one go...you will forever question him each time he walks out the door..it is a miserable life..don't you want better? Another thing I realized as well..is that HE is not making you stay up and worry or wait..YOU are doing this to yourself..He may be doing this to try and get you to leave because he is too much of a coward to tell you he wants out....Good luck! You deserve SO much better!
2006-10-08 05:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by heandI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should you worry??
I hate to be the first, second or third to tell you thissssssss.
He broke all vows, love, trust, being faithful when he decided to sleep with a woman before you wedding he has no plans to turn it around .. you let him know its ok and your just have to heal from it.
I hate to tell you.. ITS NOT OK!! You a woman that needs to respected married or not!! Its your choice if your going to allow this man to disrespect you as a woman and as a wife. The rules of your foundation in your marriage was broken before you said I DO.. I believe you have to know what you want and why you want it.. Just to say your married is not worth walking around with pain in your soul
2006-10-08 06:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't make you sit up and wait!
How degradeing for you to have not have known about his fuuck buddy until now! And you being her friend!!
Honey, I hate to say it, but run, and run away as fast as you can. Don't allow this creep to degrade you any further!! You never know what "woman" he is screwing now, and if she's even another firend!! Hell, even leave TOWN!!
2006-10-08 05:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you 2 have alot to talk about and if i was you i would not have been to ******* happy about him being with his other girl the night befor he is going to become your husband that's so not right he should be thinking of you only .........
girl i feel so bad for you and i think you need to talk to him cause if you ask me i think he is still doing it if he is out all night and will not tell you where he was ....... i don't think he should have said i do cause its so not fair to you .............. they say one a cheater always a cheater ..........
2006-10-08 05:52:21 · answer #5 · answered by bonnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously think of getting a divorce. He wasn't faithful from the start, and it's doubtful that he is now.
2006-10-08 05:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by johnsredgloves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently he show that he not sorry for wat he did and has a carefree attitude about it....
I jus hope that girl and you are no longer friends......
Take a vacation for 2 weeks clear your head jus don't tell him you're going anywhere.........
When you come back and if you feel you want to give him a chance or not its totally up to u.....
2006-10-08 05:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by tutsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a legal separation!
2006-10-08 05:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by Adam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is still doing it, the dog. Divorce him and find someone who cares about you.
2006-10-08 05:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by Candi S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea thats very messed up. next time he goes out, you go out
stay out all night. have fun.
2006-10-08 05:45:40 · answer #10 · answered by Richie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋