i always have great friends, a great social life and a loving family. however, a couple of months back i did something really bad. i went and told all the people that loved me that i was dying of cancer, only i was not. at first everybdy believed me, but then as my story started to change drastically amongst everyone, many of my friends became suspscious. My friends have all come to know the truth and have calmed down and are still willing to help me. however, i feel no guilt at all that i said such a big lie and whats worse is i don't know why i did it. could i be mentally unfit, or do i suffer from some mental illness. i just don't know what to do.
2006-10-08 05:16:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I've asked so much forgivness from god, and thats really helped me calm down, but im scared to go see a shrink
2006-10-08 05:29:36 · update #1
and yes i am a teenager
2006-10-08 05:45:51 · update #2
I would recommend some counseling to get some help. Yes, this is a behavior that could be classified with a diagnoses, but it doesn't mean you are mentally unfit or mentally ill. Something is going on that led you to tell the lie, but it's not something that is going to take over your life. The fact that you even asked a question on here about it shows you have concern. You wouldn't have asked if you didn't care. I work in the counseling field and this is not too uncommon, people do it for a number of reasons. Seek out some help..if for no other reason to get some resolution for yourself as to why you told the lie. Talk to a pastor or call a local counseling center. You don't have to broadcast that you are going to counseling. You often have to try a couple counselors before you find one you are comfortable with but give a counselor a few sessions before making any decisions to quit. And you might only have to go for a month..it's not a life long ordeal.
2006-10-08 05:37:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in your teen years, this behavior is not abnormal. Teenage years is a time of drama and wanting to be noticed and a need for outside validation for who you are. It is also a time that you need to be appreciated and told many times what a unique person you are. If you were not getting that in your life, then that you might want to create a story that is attention grabbing, that says "hey, look at me! Don't take me for granted."
Creating a story such as yours, although I don't think it's the best thing for you to do, is almost typical behavior of a teenager who has a need to be center of attention. I have heard this type of story many times.
Counseling would not be a bad idea in order to find out why you have such a strong need for attention, and to try to find out what's missing in your life. Another thing I would suggest is to take that drama and passion you have within you and use it for stage. Think about joining theater or drama class at your school.
Lying is not a good thing for you to do. It will only affect your reputation and credibility down the line. Integrity of being true to yourself and others is a good thing to strive for. The quality of integrity will give you a much happier life. Good luck.
2006-10-08 12:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by danaluana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must feel something or you wouldn't be seeking advice and help. You really need to get professional help to figure out what made you do something that was so hurtful to others in your life. If you live a life with deep hurt for others and no remorse, you will lose your friends and end up in jail. Many people in jail are there because they hurt others and feel no remorse. Get help now to put your life back together in a healthy way.
2006-10-08 12:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by Nicegirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you believe in God, but you really need to pray and ask forgiveness. It sounds like your conscience is no longer affecting you. You do not want to venture that far away from God to where your conscience stops working. You could be suffering from a mental illness. One illness could be Munchester's disease. That is an illness where you either make yourself or others sick to get attention. Try counseling, but try God first.
2006-10-08 12:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by bella kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would check that out with a counselor (therapist). That was a terrible lie; since you neither feel remorse nor know why you said it--checking it out with a pro wouldn't hurt.
2006-10-08 12:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by Terri C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you want to die of cancer. Strange, but it could be true. I wouldn't recommend that you keep it up, if you've heard of "crying wolf." It could happen for real one day and no one would believe you.
Seek psychiatric help.
2006-10-08 12:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by Young & Handsome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do relaxing exercises.
2006-10-08 12:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by radhikadesai666 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were bored and frustrated.
2006-10-08 13:24:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋