i think i'm falling..for my best friend?
i've never told anyone this but...heres the deal...i met my best friend freshman year..we are now juniors and very close....but the thing is over the past years...i think something clicked inside me..and i've developed feelings for him..strong feelings...i dont know what to do...we do everything together...he tells people he loves them and hugs just about anybody including me..but the thing that makes me wonder the most is..we went with my family on vacation for a week and we stayed at my aunts house for 2 days..when we where wathing tv..out of no where he kisses me on the temple....???..i didnt say anything..but i reagret it everyday..how do i know it he feels the same?...things havent been the same since..its real awkward...WE'VE STARTED TO ARGUE..over silly things but he always ends up hugging me or we just laugh about it...last night i hugged him and he kept bragging about how good it was???.ughh i dont know what to do...can some help...
2006-10-08 05:13:51 · 13 answers · asked by cubs_gurl97 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i'm afraid to tell him though...
2006-10-08 05:18:11 · update #1
no hes not gay..
2006-10-08 05:21:17 · update #2
we dont need intimascy spelt it right..."we are only 16 and in high school....
and
everything is normal between us i think it is just the memory of the "incident" thats bothering..maybe cuz he thinks i dont feel anything because i didn't do anything about it.....
2006-10-08 05:31:47 · update #3
he is not gay....he's made sure of it..i've made sure of it...
2006-10-08 06:58:29 · update #4
It is tough. You should talk to him about it. I know that you wouldn't want to lose your best friend if it didn't work out. If you were to pursue things, it definitely would not be the same after you turn the corner.
It is obvious that things have started to change already if you are starting to argue. You need to talk to him about how your feelings have changed. Ask him if there is a chance if things could go farther than the friendship with both of you. You have to search yourself to see if you could be just his friend when you are having these feelings. You may to lay low for a while if he doesn't reciprocate the feelings. I think by what little you have said, he may have some of the same feelings. Please talk to him about it, or you will be stressing out, possibly for nothing.
It is OK to have the fear of telling him. It is better than what you are feeling now, isn't it? You will not know unless you ask him.
2006-10-08 05:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could start by telling him how your feelings have started to blossom in a much bigger way for him.
Is there any possible way this best friend is gay? It kind of hit me with a memory of my best friend years ago when I got the hugs and pecks on the temple. He was gay.
IF he's not gay, then he'll be honest enough to lewt you know where his feeling lay.
2006-10-08 05:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 00:52:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea why he will not initiate sex, but it seems obvious he is ready to be intimate with you.
the only thing that is not clear is whether he has long term thoughts about you.
he hugs everyone. maybe you are the only one giving him positive responses....so he keeps you as a close friend.
maybe he's useless in bed, maybe he doesn't even know what he wants, maybe he doesn't feel confident due to inexperience.
you are the one with him, you make a decision. otherwise it's just going to drag on and on.
2006-10-08 05:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, it seems to me you may have fallen for your best friend. if you feel deep down that he may be the one for you then go for it. however maybe your best friend is just being over friendly with you. after the little incident on your vacation with him, it seems to me its bothering your friend and you. why don't you sit down with your friend and ask him about how he feels about you. i know its easier aid than done, but it may help you when it comes to really confronting your feelings for him. ask him that you've noticed a change in him since the vacation, and is there a specific reason as to why he's a little bit different...
2006-10-08 05:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your feelings girl. It sounds like a natural progression between you two.
Best of luck!
2006-10-08 05:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go w/ it!
dont feel akward bout the fact hes ur best friend thats just gay when people do that anyway go4it!
2006-10-08 05:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's plane and simple ask him if he would like to go on a date.
2006-10-08 05:18:05 · answer #8 · answered by looking1964 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him and finish with it... I think he might be gay.. you can never tell if he is gay or not..
2006-10-08 06:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by alo-bello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be true to your feelings and be honest.
are you afraid to love?
i think you are falling for him too.
enjoy the moments while they last.
2006-10-08 05:19:10 · answer #10 · answered by math 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋