How do you feel about respect of privacy in your own home?

Question

For example, those who live together as couples....
Is privacy important, if/when does need for openess outweigh need for privacy? I am only talking about things like journals, letters, email, notebooks and that sort of thing. Neither person is in doubt of the others fidelity, it's just that one needs/wants to have their own diary , the other feels that secrets are being kept and feels somehow threatened or left out. What do you think?

Answer 1

A journal IS something private. It's also important to be able to have that one little corner of the world to be just yours. My boyfriend doesn't like that I won't let him read my journal, or poetry, but that's not up to him. It's special to me, and I keep no secrets from him in there. If he doesn't trust me enough to have just that bit to myself, then he's not worth being with.

Answer 2

Of course privacy is your right, it is also your right to stay alone. If you live with someone then it is necessary for both people to lose some of the rights they take for granted as an individual.

If you have things you don't want your partner to know then they must be things that you do not think that either your partner or you would be uncomfortable knowing those things.

No one can think exactly the same as another person about every subject but on issuse that you don't agree about I can't see any reason to write them down in a journal and if they are passed on to another person in an email then one way or another it looks as though your partner is being betrayed and you don't want your partner to know so you must be aware that it is a betrayal.

If you are true to your partner you should have nothing to hide. If you partner were to keep secrets from you and have email correspondence that you are not allowed to see then you would probably feel that your partner was not being totally honest with you, if you care enough to think that way.

Answer 3

I'm a note, diary, and journal keeper. My husband of 29 years is not, but he does not care what I write, and he does not read what I write, unless I were to leave it out for him to see. Which I would never do. I tie a string around my journal, or put it in a lock box, or anywhere private and out of site. My Mother kept notes, journals, and diaries, and placed them through out the house, where anyone could find them, and then she would be annoyed that we invaded her privacy by reading something that was obviously left out in full view for us to find. Actually she was hoping for a confrontation. I keep lots of list and notes, but I do not force my notes onto others. (Except for the occasional grocery list of items I need help with.) I personally feel that a persons privacy should never be invaded. My Mother had no respect for my privacy, and would root through all my dresser drawers, night stand, note books, letters from friends, anything she wanted to see. It made me into a person that would never do that to another person. I, to this day will not even read a post card unless I'm asked to, by the one to which it is addressed.

Answer 4

I'm kind of going through the same thing. WE all have a right to our privacy, and if one or the other isn't respectful of these needs, then it all biols down to trust issues, even if you say that they trust each other.

I hate having my own computer, that I paid for invaded! It's mine! That's why their called "personal computers" right?

My journals are mine! My diary is mine!

I feel all of my things have been gone through, when I'm at school! I haven't mustered up the courage to ask........what the hell where you looking for?

Maybe that's where true love and marriage come into play, do you think?

Good luck

Answer 5

Everyone needs their privacy!! If someone is that insecure about a relationship it's a sure sign of a lack of trust. Nobody needs to know everything about the person that they are with. Some things that are NOT essential to a relationship should not be shared. Your books, journals, and so on are your business to share or not share. It's up to you.

Answer 6

I think that assuming you are an adult you have the right to privacy. Unless you've proven yourself untrustworthy, your partner, spouse, whatever, needs to work on their own self esteem if they are so insecure that they want to see everything that you write or want to keep private. You might try to reassure the other person of your love, admiration, whatever to help them feel more secure, but ultimately they need to develop their own self esteem and security within themselves. Try counseling if they'll go. Also, ask yourself if you'd be cool with them having a journal or secrets that you weren't privvy to. What's good for the goose...

Answer 7

What you should remember is that each and every family individuals has its very own code of habit. some are very top and correct mutually as others are extremely happy to stroll around bare and don't see privateness as an argument in any respect. it is for the family individuals to realize an settlement this is right for them. component to a newborn's education has to do with expertise that what's favourite in one family individuals won't be appropriate in yet another. so we will not talk approximately 'what variety of recent child does this or that?'. it is as much as the mummy and dad to set up issues in a fashion that works for them. it is all component to what we call parenting. mum and dad are in cost - not the youngsters. In families the place 'childrens come first' toddlers be taught that they are extra substantial than adults. that should not prevail to them in later existence. toddlers be taught standards and expectancies from their mum and dad and due to this being a confirm performs such an substantial function in a newborn's adolescence.

Answer 8

You should have the right to keep a diary, it should always be a private book, its your thoughts and feelings in there.
The right to privacy is every ones as long as its not going to hurt your partner in any way it shouldnt be a problem.

Answer 9

Privacy is important otherwise it wouldn't be something our fore fathers wrote about. The problem you are facing is you've let someone into your life without discussing it first. It's still important but now it's alot harder to request it. However, I disagree about e-mails and all other correspondece. That is too easy to get in trouble with.

Answer 10

I diary is a really personal thing. If im honest, if i was seeing a girl who posessed one, i would be tempted to read it....
People should remain autonomous in a relationship- I need my own space.
I dated this girl, who was always in my business, it drove me insane. So, in response to your question, one should not open anothers' mail and look into there diary, but it doesnt mean it won't happen. be weary... and keep it all in your head. goodluck.