Why do so many female anweres start with" tell him how you feel"?

Question

Never seen one yet that start's with ask him what he want's or needs, it all about her feeling's, and feeling's aren't worth much because 6 months down the road she going to change how she feels.
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DId he ask how you feel,

Answer 1

Because we believe in communication and are just as important in the relationship. If you are a couple it's 50/50. Apparently by your answer, you join the ranks of a male chauvanist.

Answer 2

Female answers start this way because basically thats what she wants to know. The questioners basically answer their own questions but dont know how to say it but it is in their questions themselves and it comes down to how do you feel and then find the way to tell him. Most women know how a guy feels but men are rather stupid when it comes to interpersonal relationships and either cant see or doesnt want to know how the girl really feels, so she has to tell him what should really be the obvious. What happens in 6,7 10 months on down the road are irrelavant today, because both parties will change by then. But if a guy doesnt worry about today, there may not be a need to worry about the future because there may not be one with the girls hes with today!

Answer 3

Seems to me that you have not been around women much or you just dont pay attention at all!!!!!!
Emotions/feeling are the sun of the universe known as woman. Every fiber of their being is woven with emotion/feelings. We guys simple do not understand that because for the most part we are practical thinkers and there is no room for emotion in that type of thinking.
NO, I AM NOT SAYING WOMAN CAN NOT BE, OR ARE NOT PRACTICAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THEY ARE CONTROLED BY EMOTION AND EVERYTHING ELSE HAS TO FILL IN AROUND THAT. **IN THE MAJORITY** **THIS DOES NOT APPLY TO ALL WOMAN**
**AND PRACTICAL THINKING DOES NOT APPLY TO ALL MEN**
Any way, woman know that men are not going to freely talk about their "feelings" so they start out telling us theirs and hope to get us to open up to them. That way the issue, what ever it is, can be worked on. Guys just want the issue gone, we ignore it untill it goes away.

Answer 4

Maybe that's why they are on yahoo trying to figure out their guys.

They lack the experience they could have if they did ask him about his feelings. Women are more emotionally perceptive, but they just don't get a few things.

First of all, an experienced woman knows that they can't just dump their feelings on a man and expect him to return them, understand tham, or even care about them. This ia a common mistake. Women bond with other women by sharing their feelings and supporting each other, and men don't.

Second, many women think that men are responsible for their feelings, and should validate them. Men perceive things differently, and a woman's perception does not always equal a man's intent.

Third, men are not socialized to talk about their feelings. From birth, a man is conditioned to view the showing of emotions as feminine or revealing of weaknesses. Getting a man to open up requires respect, admiration, and unconditional acceptance. Dumping your feelings on him puts him on the spot and causes him to feel defensive.

An experienced woman knows that men do not think just like women. She knows that men bond with each other through ribbing and insults, exchanging information, competition and admiration, and personal vindication stories. Women bond through relating to one another, supporting each other, sharing feelings, and helpful suggestions.

A wise woman does not just dump her feelings on a man. She gives her man the benefit of the doubt and asks him questions. She challenges him playfully. She gives hom the chance to clarify what his intent was when he said that, or what he means by a certain behavior. She knows that for a man, perception is more comfortable to talk about then feelings, and perceptions are a big "tell" with how a man feels.
She sometimes shares her perception of whatever he did, and usually finds out that her perception was really far off from what he meant to convey. She does this before reacting emotionally to a situation or incident. She does not always share how she feels, but rather what her perception is. She says "What did you mean by that?" and "That sounds like it came out wrong. It sounds like you're saying....."
She asks him more questions that challenge him. She says things like "So, what kind of woman do you respect?" and "How am I supposed to take that?" or "what did you mean by that?"
She remembers that his perception is bound tightly to his ego, and this is what motivates him. A man's ego needs more attention than a woman's. She motivates him by inspiring him to feel good, important, admired, powerful, and needed.
She knows yes or no questions will not guarantee an honest answer, as would multiple choice. She knows better than to put him on the spot with "does this make me look fat?" but rather asks "which one looks better, the red skirt or the blue?" or "what does this outfit say to you?"
A wise woman knows better than to pry feelings out of a man. When he shrugs his shoulders and says 'i don't know', usually it's because he doesn't know. He doesn't think interms of feelings, and he doesn't know how to talk about it. She knows that she needs to put the dots really close together for him to connect.
This is especially pervailent in younger guys. Younger guys often mistake raging hormones or attraction, and their fantasies with feelings. Similar to the way younger women often mistake norepenepherine and endorphins from physical attraction for feelings of love and affection.

Answer 5

I never start with that. But many other females do it because they are women. How come many men care so much about sex? It just goes through the brain, so don't question us!

Answer 6

cuz the guy will usually tell you what he wants or needs. guys can't read our minds, so we have to tell them, explicitly. men are easier to read than woman; sports, sex, food, sleep......did i miss any categories of thought? women's thoughts are EVERYWHERE - isn't it better to know what they're thinking than to try to have to guess, or as a male to not know at all?

Answer 7

We asked but you'all (some men) jus don't like to express themselve.....

Answer 8

it is called communication, something you obviously do not know anything about. so you will probably end up in screwed up relationships all your life. you must be the saddest person in the world.

Answer 9

Men usually do not ask their wives how they feel.

Answer 10

because having communication is the best thing for a relationship