My husband of nine years is looking at porn when i"m sleeping and it burns me up soooo bad! My kids have even seen it on the history and asked me why dad has to look at that stuff. I've asked him about it before and he tells me he only went to one site and stuff started poping up on him but we have pop up blockers!! How do I tell him that this hurts my feelings without getting into a big fight about it?
2006-10-08 03:49:39 · 26 answers · asked by momof5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Show him how to clear the history. If you don't make it more exciting in bed, he will look other places to fulfill his fantasies.
2006-10-08 04:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-28 00:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee. let me see, where have I heard that story before, why do men always use that as an excuse when they get caught out on porn sites?
Just straight out tell him how you feel, dont let it eat you up inside.
If he cant at least respect you, he should think of the kids finding these sites. They only have to click on the link and they are there looking at the same stuff as Dad.
I wouldnt be concerned if you end up in an arguement, I think this is worth fighting about, especially when your feelings and your children are involved.
Dont take any notice of the others presuming you are not taking care of your husband sex wise, we know men love to look at women on these sites whether they are getting enough or not, but you have to think about the kids in this case.
2006-10-08 04:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by tassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a man, and men look at porn. It's that simple. As long as he is not looking a gay porn, you should be ok. Just ask him to clear the history so that the kids dont see it. Tools..internet options..delete files, then clear history. And another suggestion, look at the porn with him. My fiance and I look at porn together sometimes, not for sexual reasons, but because it is so funny. Find out why he looks at it. Maybe there is something that you are not providing for him. Try roleplaying, or some other activity to spice up the sex life. And look at it this way, would you rather him look at porn online, or be out cheating on you?
2006-10-08 03:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by da_trump_queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you try to make him stop, he will just take it underground. I got married very young and learned the hard way that you CANNOT make a man stop looking at porn if he likes to look at porn.
I made peace with it years ago and suggest you try to as well. Unfortunately, you don't have many choices here.
Even if he respects your feelings, most men are baffled as to why women get so upset about this. So if he thinks there is nothing wrong with it, he will think it's ok to keep looking whether you like it or not.
Also, a man doesn't just 'look' at porn and then walk away. They use it to masturbate. So there probably is an element here that he is probably not getting as much sex as he wants (yes, people still do masturbate even when they are getting sex).
2006-10-08 05:19:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a password on the computer. settings screen saver.. and you will see a password setting. Try talking with him about it... Tell him the kids are seeing this and know that you are doing it. I dont want them raised to know all this. Tell him that it hurts you that he has to look at other women and that you dont feel good enough! Maybe you are not giving him what he wants in the bedroom. Maybe you could take some kinky tips from the pron its self. Maybe if you spice things up he wont want to look at porn because he has his own porn star in the bed room. Try fliming yourself and him making love. Try blocking the sites...
Good luck
2006-10-08 03:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all pop up blockers work for certain sights.
I guess it can burn your ***, but maybe be happy he's just looking, not touching??
Should this be a clue to you to try and spice up your love life a bit? Couldn't hurt. Before he makes the porn sights become a reality in your marriage.
2006-10-08 04:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't help but wonder why the kids are checking dad's history! Did they see you doing it, and now they are checking on him too? First, you're gonna have to find a way to stop THEM from doing this! This should be between you and your husband, not the kids! My husband does it too, but we have a healthy sex life, so I don't let it bother me at all. If you DON'T have a good sex life, then tell him next time he gets aroused in this way, to wake you up, you could use some attention too!
2006-10-08 04:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a idea, wont you guys get a separate computer from the kids, I have been married for 10 years, and I dont have a problem with my husband watching porn, it is just pictures, it is better than him going out there and acting out his fantasies on other
women
2006-10-08 04:10:15 · answer #9 · answered by twinkle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some of the others, it is a guy thing. Its really harmless unless its kiddy porn.
As far as your kids seeing the history, why are they looking at the history? That is something that you or your husband would do. Maybe they saw it b/c they heard you talking about it? I wouldn't discuss my marital issues with my children.
2006-10-08 04:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I deal with the same thing.I think its just a mans thing. It does bother me to some extent,,but hes home and not going out cheating on me. You need to tell him if hes going to look at that stuff,,he needs to delete the history so your kids dont find it. I know you are feeling that whats wrong with me that he needs to look at porn. But men are visual people. And i honestly dont think we can change them. Goood luck.
2006-10-08 03:55:38 · answer #11 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋