My mother once told me that my grandmother said ' after her last love she would never love again'. She stayed single for 24 years after my mothers birth.
Am i destined to the same route. My thoughts are of staying a single mom. Have a casual relationship that does not involve my daughter. Live a life like that. what do u all think?
I dont see the benefits of having another guy live with me ever.
2006-10-08 03:43:38 · 29 answers · asked by Lady Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You must decide your own destiny. Do you prefer being alone? Are you happy? Only you can decide what you want or do not want in your life. Don't expect someone else to make you happy. Happiness comes from with-in, and cannot be given to you or taken away from you. You are in charge of your happiness. Decide what makes you happy, and point your life, and your dreams in that direction. Watch out what you wish for. It's amazing how you get just what you wish for.
Best wishes to you and your daughter. May all your dreams come true. May happiness find you where-ever you may go.
2006-10-08 03:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by gypsyparadise123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever relationships that our families had is not an inheritance and it doesn't need to be carried into your life as a tradition either. it's always fearful whatever one had experience in a terrible relationship but it doesn't mean the next one will be the same as well and it's our choice to determine how we want the relationship to be...for good or bad and it takes 2 to make it happen. if you're just after a disaster relationship, take some time of and cool down and let things fall naturally and don't give yourself such a pressure in anything cause you deserve something good as well in life. to be honest, when i was young my parents fight so much until today that they are not getting any younger! and when i was young i always think a marriage - relationship even sucks and never like the idea of it but hey....at times you can't just stop blessings in life. take things slowly at no judgement. not only a sour relationship will make you feel at such but even a family background will also have an effect but as i say break off the chains!
2006-10-08 13:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys don't know what they've got till its gone and even then it maybe a few years till they realise it.
I split with a girl way back in 1978, I still miss her now, I have never met anyone quite like her. It was my fault I didn't take care of her as well as I should have. I was more interested in going out with my mates and having a good time. Stupid really.
Everyone needs someone they can depend on to help them through those difficult times that come along.
Christmas is not long away, plan something for you and your offspring to do. In the new year you may have a different outlook.
Mike
2006-10-08 11:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on if thats what you really want. You cant go by your other family members life. I never lived with anyone up until 2 yrs ago. Im almost 36 yrs old. My son is 13 amd i was and am a single mom also. When i met my man we moved in together within a months time. Im glad we are together,,he takes care of me and my son....of course i have a full time job,,,but i feel like i have 2 kids instead of 1 sometimes. We have our problems once in awhile like every relationship,,,and sometimes YES i wish i still ived alone,,,but im in love with him and we try and make things work. If you base your life on others,how are you going to ever know what you want?? Do what you feel in your heart..nothing will ever be perfect,,and noone is ever perfect. Take your time with what you want for your life. If you find love then go with your heart.
2006-10-08 10:50:22 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was single for a long time, also i was more than sure that i will stay that way. I can understand that part, but one day i was answering questions here, and i met someone, from the other side of globe, he is right now next to me. We got married two weeks ago, so you never know what can happen... Just don't be desperate, and don't make decisions like never again, and so...
2006-10-08 10:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not try to find happiness on your own. Take some classes, learn a new Hobby, hang out with your girlfriends.
I think rushing or thinking about another relationship already sends a signal of being "Needy"
Take this time to be a better mom and work on that relationship.
Do some mother daughter activities and if it's meant to be love will find you when you least expect it.
I would be leery of moving boyfriends in and out of your home. It is setting a poor example to your daughter and you are putting her at risk of being molested.
This is a good time to set some goals and enrich who you are.
Life is not about who the man in our life is, it's about being all that you can be and having inner peace.
2006-10-08 10:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by easinclair 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a bit drastic. Not all men are bad, it just feels that way when you're hurting.
Would a casual relationship fulfill you? If not, best to stay away from that stuff.
I love the idea of being with my soul mate. I am eternally optimistic about it - but I haven't met him yet.
He's out there for you, I'm sure. Only time will make your paths cross.
2006-10-08 10:47:40 · answer #7 · answered by medium_of_dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 33 years of a great marriage and two fine daughters my first wife died. Three years later, when I was 64, I fell in love again (I know that sounds "corny"). My second marriage was so wonderfully romantic, and it lasted 15 years until my second love also died. Incidentally, in all my life, including 5 years of war service as an RAF Pilot (the "Wings" were a great attraction to the girls) I've had sex with only those two wives. (That was my Christian outlook.)
Does this help you?
2006-10-08 10:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by Malcolm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know a few women who have made that choice, especially mothers. They don't want men in and out of their lives disrupting their childs growing up and confusing them as to who the solid figures are in their lives. If you can stick to it, at least until your children are older I think you are very brave and strong.
However don't lose all touch with men as when you do decide to get back out there you m,ight find it really hard if you have been off the horse for 20 years!
Good luck with whatever you choose to do x
2006-10-08 10:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by kerrykinsmalosevich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, i don't think anyone should ever be alone. We all need somone to love us and take care of us.. You don't deserve to be alone. if you've lost love before you need to be brave enough to stand up and move on.. Only cowards are afraid and dwell on the past. You'll only show your ex that he has succeeded in destroying your life.. Your daughter deserves a father figure and it'll only wear you down trying to play mommy and daddy at the same time... You'll find the right guy someday and i can't promise you that he'll be perfect but you'll both learn to live with each others faults... Don't make a decision that you'll end up regretting...
I wish you the best of luck in whatever decision you end up making!
2006-10-08 11:02:30 · answer #10 · answered by Natasha O 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋