my brotherinlaw is cheating on his wife should i tell her and how this is my wife brother and i dont what to fight over it help
2006-10-08 03:31:42 · 14 answers · asked by bobwis 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Unless you want both your wife and brother in law mad at you, you should just talk to your wife.... if you haven't already. Tell her what you know and let her decide what to do with the information, after all it is her brother.
Sisters are most times protective of brothers. If he is the one cheating then she should know what to say to him or how to say it.
You don't want to be knee deep in crap with your in-laws. If the marriage broke up becuse you went to the sister-in-law with what you know, that is the likely outcome.
good luck
2006-10-08 03:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by mommakaye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do they have any children? If so, something must be done to help them. Because the longer this goes on the harder it will be for the family. But from my point of view, your wife should talk to her brother, not you. That way he won't feel so intimidated, and you can still have some peace. Most people can forgive their flesh and blood. Cheating on a spouse is an awful thing to do. Can you imagine how she will feel knowing that you all knew about it and she didn't? She loves this man, and is being played for a fool. I feel sorry for her. Give the cheating brother-in-law forewarning, and give him an ultimatum. You have a set date to tell her, or your wife will. If it is stopped early enough, maybe you could help them to have enough time to work it out. If to much time goes by, he may fall madly in love with this women and he will leave your sister-in-law. I hope it helped.
2006-10-08 03:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell your wife what you saw.If you didn't see anything and it's speculations on your part then I wouldn't say a word. If your wifes brother told you then I would tell your wife what he said. If you don't want to argue about it then just don't give your wife your opinon. Just tell her what you heard or saw and tell her that it is her brother so she should deal with it.In anyway she feels fit.This way you'll be out of most of it. Good luck Oh remember too if you don't tell your wife and she finds out you knew and didn't say anything to her then she will probabley be mad.
2006-10-08 03:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't get involved in this unless she asks. Then you must tell her the truth. You might want to confront your brother about his behavior. Is this affair losing his wife over?
2006-10-08 03:33:58 · answer #4 · answered by farahwonderland2005 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you know about it, then you should not hide it from YOUR wife.
You are not the policeman of your brother-in-laws's personal life.
But if you know about this and hide it from YOUR wife, then you
may be in deep doo when the fit hits the shan.
2006-10-08 03:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by hls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you don't want to fight over it, it would be best not to interfere in this matter at all. You will not achieve anything by entering into things that are not your concern.
2006-10-08 03:37:44 · answer #6 · answered by Kalyansri 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What does your wife say? Maybe she should talk to him.I'd talk to your wife first and see what she says.After all,it is her brother.
2006-10-08 03:35:00 · answer #7 · answered by willis_is_40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should tell your brother in law to stop like, RIGHT NOW, and tell him to be honest with his wife and im sure hes sorry about it right? well i think he shold be honest about the whole thing.
2006-10-08 03:36:16 · answer #8 · answered by Alex B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stay out of it. she'll eventually find out on her own.
2006-10-08 03:33:30 · answer #9 · answered by kimberly k 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be smart and stay out of it
2006-10-08 03:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋