I'm a FEMALE to MALE transsexual. I was born a GIRL and I am now becoming a MALE (usually people get this confused because when they hear "transsexual" they automatically think it's a guy who got his stuff chopped off) that is not the case with me. I was born a GIRL and I've been on hormones ONLY..no surgery as of yet, but I'm VERY passable. I don't want to be seen as a "butch lesbian" anymore, and I'd REALLY like to date a straight woman, who may see me as more of a man than I think a lesbian would..but how do I explain the whole transsexual thing to a straight woman who thinks I'm a natural born male with a penis? Is having a penis really THAT important to being a "man"? Seems to me, character would be more important, cuz I ALWAYS hear from girls about how much of a jerk their man is, and well, me, coming from a female perspective, I think I know how to treat a girl...I just can't get them past the "ewwness" of my condition. Any suggestions?
2006-10-08 03:27:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm 26 years old and I'm a full time college student, so the girls are there, I'm just really nervous about outing myself to girls my age..many tend to be immature and feel it's their duty or buisiness to "warn" others about me...which is why I don't ask girls out, I don't trust that they won't "out" me to everyone.
2006-10-08 04:12:28 · update #1
Having a penis is absolutely the single most important aspect of being a man. A man's entire self-concept and his relationship to the world around him is determined by having a penis. As a boy, peeing is the first expression of his will. You will never be a man. Even if you get a penis, you will never be a man.
Straight women don't want to date a woman. Straight women are not attracted to females. Straight women want testosterone.
You should not lie to anyone who you are planning to have sexual relations with. And you shouldn't lie to anyone who you see more than twice-even if you are just being friends.
You are not a man.
You should just be honest and let people know that you are female, but wish you were a man. See how it sounds? Getting a penis won't change the truth.
2006-10-08 12:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by limendoz 5 · 1⤊ 9⤋
Like...people can like...go from female to male? wow. That's like...totally wierd. I'm just jokin' with ya man! See below:
Um, here's an idea: ask out a girl. Talk someone up. Take a friendship to the next level. Just do what every other straight guy does to try and get with a woman, minus the evil stuff some guys use. If the relationship seems to be pregressing, let her know. Out yourself whenever you're comfortable telling the person, as long as it's before you're in the bedroom of course. Don't focus on the fact that you're trans and try to get out there in the dating scene. Just remember to be responsible and not pull the ol' tranny suprise. As for the equipment issue, I hear both it's about the side and it's about the skill. If the women prefers skill, I hope you've got that one covered. If she's into the whole size thing, buy a bigger strap-on. Problem solved. Oh, and one last little bit of advice: try going to a straight club or something instead of hanging out in dyke bars. You might find a few more straight women...
2006-10-08 03:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't state your age, so its alittle hard to give you an answer because its going to be different depending on if you are a teen or if you are an adult.
When I was 17 and my future husband told me that he was a transvestite, I thought 'cool, not a problem". However, 20years later when I was in my 30's it became a big problem and helped end our marriage. I was a completely different person at 37 than 17 with different needs and desires. I was completely uninterested in compromising them.
So in answer to your question, depending on your age, you seek out partners the same way you do no matter what gender you are. However,, you must be completely honest with them. And yes, that means that 99% of straight women are going to be icked out. But NOT everyone. Be persistent. And develop interests that lead to communication. If you don't have anything to talk about, penis or not, no one is going to be interested for long. Bring something to the table.
As far as your question about whether or not a penis is important to the man, from a woman's perspective who has had experience with all sorts and sizes, while a jerk is a jerk is a jerk, they all had one. Learn to use a strap on while you are waiting for yours.
2006-10-08 03:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from yr photos ..if i see u on the streets i wouldnt thgt u were a girl ...i tght u were just another guy.. dont worry there will be a girl who dont mind yr "condition" ... as for now just hang out and get more friends..trsut me u will find the one..
2006-10-08 03:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First remember!
Lift with your legs, not your back.
and make sure she isnt bigger then you.
2006-10-08 13:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by scary g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋