My female friend that got burned inside her apartment (0.5 months ago), become friends with her 4 months ago. I find out that that girl have really nice personality. She asked me out. What do I do? I really like her personality but her face is *shivers*. I know that beauty is skin deep but we are talking about universally ugly. How about if you were to date someone for 3 years already and she recently got burnt inside her house, would you still date her???
2006-10-08 03:18:36 · 15 answers · asked by Salsa Dancer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just date her.
2006-10-08 04:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard because you've only known her for 4 months, and while you probably like her a lot, that's not enough time necessarily to develop the kind of bond you'd need to withstand a physical mutilation like that. If you had been dating for 3 years there would be a deeper level of love and caring that might have been able to over look the physical aspect, but there's no denying that when you've just met someone and are considering dating them, there HAS to be physical attraction. It's not being superficial or vain...it's just the way it is. If you're not physically attracted to someone, but really care about them, that's called friendship. I don't think you should date this person if you can't imagine yourself kissing them or being intimate with them. It would just be leading them on. It would be better to tell her that you really like her and value her friendship, and would rather not complicate it with dating right now. That way you can still have a nice relationship with her as a friend, and if it works out where her burn wounds heal well or if she has reconstructive surgury and you decide that you are attracted to her after all, then you can tell her how you feel and she will feel like you've been a good friend to stick by her through the hard times.
2006-10-08 10:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by CuriousCat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes alot of guts to do it but think about this, what if it was you that got burnt would you want the whole world to turn against you because you don't look pretty anymore. If you really like her, i don't see why not. I know you need to put that extra effort to see the beauty within and it seems almost impossible and bizarre but just think of the love you might be losing and you may never find elsewhere again. It's not like she's disable and she can't talk. it's not that much work to be with her. On the other hand, if it gives you she gives you the shivers maybe you don't deserve her.
Think about it, what if it was you?
2006-10-08 10:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by Natasha O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're torn.
If she doesn't appeal to you in any way physically, then it really probably isnt ging to work, sadly.
But if her personality attracts you and you want to know more, why not??
Imagine if it was you who got burned. Would you feel good about being seen as ugly for the rest of your life? Inside, you would know that you were still the same person you were before....but now you have to try and convince everyone of that fact.
Good luck.
2006-10-08 10:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by medium_of_dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Beauty is skin deep! She sounds like she's really a very nice girl! I personally think you shouldn't date her for the sake of hurting her emotionally! If your talking like this about her, your a no good Shallow piece of turd! And you should take a look at yourself in the mirror and say "She's too good for me" and leave her for a better guy who will love her for who she is and not what she looks like!
2006-10-08 10:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by Black Betty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is when you dont care if her face is beautiful, or her body is
luscious, or that she has money, or that she gives you the ultimate rush in sex, or any other superficial characteristic.
Love outlasts every obstacle.
If you dont love her, then be a gentleman and move on. She trusted you enough to ask you out. She has the spirit to be easy
to love, at least to a mature person
2006-10-08 10:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by hls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is the answer to everything. All you ever need is love,
communication and understanding. That's what I figured out so
far. If you are down, you need to get up and start doing something with
your life. Don't need to be shy, be straight forward and allways say what
you want and expect from the others.
2006-10-08 10:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would. She can get cosmetic surgery and fix it down the road. She has a great personality and that is hard to fine. Give it a chance.
2006-10-08 11:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by Lori K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me, i've been with "beautiful" people, i mean physically beautiful, but none of them seems to last, dated for 1 year, 2 years, couple of months, but i want someone whom i can be with for a very long time, so it doesn't matter if she's ugly, as long as you're happy being with her
2006-10-08 10:23:35 · answer #9 · answered by tikla79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it really matter's if they're ugly, You don't want to be shallow, do you? I judge my guys on the why they act and their personality so I guess its your choice but I would say yes
2006-10-08 10:24:48 · answer #10 · answered by Tinkerbell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will have surgery and get her face fixed. What are you going to do about your shallow personality?
2006-10-08 10:21:40 · answer #11 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋