I like this guy and i think he likes me but my best friend just told me that she's liked him for 5 years. What should i do??
2006-10-08 03:05:58 · 19 answers · asked by MorganR 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If he likes you, go for it. Im sorry but your bestfriend has liked him for what, 5 years and hasnt done anything about it ? And if she did, she was prolly rejected id say ?
In that case, if she was a real friend, she wouldnt stop you jsut because she's failed in it, as harsh as it sounds.
2006-10-08 03:09:47 · answer #1 · answered by Dabidu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider the fact that in the five years she has liked this boy, she's done nothing about it. Does the boy even like her? If he doesn't, then go for it. I mean if she is your friend, she should want you to be happy, and since she doesn't have a chance with the boy, why not let you have him? However if the boy does like her, you should let her date him and not hold a grudge.
Also consider whether or not you are willing to lose your best friend over this boy. She might not be so understanding as in the aforementioned scenario. If you are willing to lose her, maybe you guys aren't that great of friends in the first place. If not, then don't make a move. Talk to her about it and see whether or not she thinks he likes her and what not. Don't go behind her back if you want to stay friends. If you want to go on and date him regardless of the way she feels, be honest, it'll be easier for the both of you.
2006-10-08 10:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No two girls should lose their friendship over a guy because if you do and if you and the guy break up, you won't even have a best friend to go to. Just try talking to your friend; it'll be hard but telling her that you share the same feelings about the guy will take a big load off your chest. Hopefully you two can work things out. This is a tough question, and it's hard to answer, so I hope I helped at least a little bit. Just promise me that you won't lose your best friend over a guy, okay? Good luck!
2006-10-08 10:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How good of you to take into consideration your best friend's feelings, especially since she's been crushing for 5 years. Maybe tell her how you feel about this guy, and work through the feelings that come up together, because as it stands right now, neither one of you are getting anywhere.
2006-10-08 10:11:24 · answer #4 · answered by vanillaspice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl all i can say is i have been there when i was in high school and all i have to tell you is best Friend don't come around everyday and its not like you can get one like her i picked the guy and now i don't talk to my girl anymore and its so hard if i had to do it over it would be my best friend over then guy any day there is so many man out there i there .......
2006-10-08 10:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by bonnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is a huge thing
cause friends last forever and bf not...
so try to make a comparison of your friend and this guy...what are you going to lose if she gets mad at you and what you can win if he is a great bf
to tell you the truth i did that once...and i chose the guy (my friend didnt know) and i dated him like 3 months but then i was feeling soo guilty that i had to leave him...luckily he never said a word of whathappenend and she is still my friend (we ve been friends since the age of 5)
so...good luck
2006-10-08 10:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by miliscal123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will get ugly if either one of you persue this guy. Tell her you also like him but agree to let let him be off limits. Frindships are not worth ruining over a guy. There are will be other guys, it just dosn't seem that way now. But frienships should be treasured
2006-10-08 10:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she plans on holding out for another 5 years or can you make your move!
2006-10-08 10:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by da gold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's hard..but, just talk to your best friend about it..If you both really want this guy, just make a promise to each other not to get mad at the other one if she gets him first, but to be happy for her. Then, go after him, it's whoever gets him first! lol..
2006-10-08 10:09:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's liked him for 5 years and hasn't made a move, then I think he's fair game, go for it!
2006-10-08 10:10:22 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Feelgood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋