Am I going crazy!?

Question

I'm 13, so I don't know a whole lot about dating, but I really like this guy. I want to get to know him better, but I don't know how we'd get together. Like, what would I ask him? I get so nervous around him and I CAN'T stop thinking about him! I don't know if he likes me and I'm afraid to ask. I don't have much of a self esteem, so if I do as him out and he says no, my self esteem will take a beating! http://www.myspace.com/thekatesteinberg -Please look at all of the pictures. I have natural VERY curly long, brown hair and green eyes with a blue/purple ring around it. I don't consider myself too pretty or skinny. Do you think he might like me? My friend said he was flirting with me, but I don't believe her.
(I wrote that yesterday)

Well, two times I've had a dream about him and I really want to date him! I'm gonna go crazy or something. Haha I don't know what to do because I really couldn't take rejection!

Answer 1

First of all, you are gorgeous!!!! I understand your position because when I was your age, I didnt have much self esteem either, but you will, it just takes time to build. But taking rejection is a normal part of life that everyone has to face, and it will only make you stronger in the long run. I know thats not really what you want to hear, but its true! The thing is, now that I am a little older I realize that the best thing in life, absolutely without question, is the risks you take. If you dont take any risks, you will have little substance in your life. You will be one of these people who always wonders, "what if I had done this, or that? How would things have been different? Its too bad I cant go back in time now that I am stronger and see how things would have turned out if I pursued my passions." For the sake of not being one of these very pathetic people, ask him!!!! You dont have to instantly ask him out, just start talking to him, and focus on finding out about him, and his interests, and what he likes. If you are too self-conscious to talk to him, it means that you are focusing on yourself and not him. And that is not an attractive quality. Focus on him, and he will appreciate the interest that you are taking in his life. Be one of the few girls your age who is not obessing over yourself so much that you can't talk to someone like a normal human being! And try to have confidence, because believe me, I have dated for a long time, and confidence is the MOST attractive quality in a woman! If you are struggling with having confidence, fake it for now, and by that you will start to learn to have it, but one of the ways you can have it is by focusing more on him when you talk to him. Make direct eye contact so he knows you are interesting only in talking to him in the moment you are talking to him. And as far as how to initiate things, you just have to start with some small talk, and then invite him to study with you, or have lunch, or help you with something. Guys like to feel that they are needed to help a woman. And if you do end up dating him, dont you dare sleep with him! I know that people your age do because 10 years ago when I was 13 my friends were!!!! And you will regret it! you are too young. Im just saying this because guys your age are particularly hormonal right now!!!! Be careful!!! But dont be afraid to go after what you want in life. That is one of the ways to be most happy, and the rejection along the way is of no consequence compared to the happiness you will find in being an overall risk taker. Have faith in yourself!

Answer 2

Yes! The universe (and its houses) is real robust. I guess when you repost your query at the Physics discussion board, you would get solutions that positioned your questions extra into viewpoint. I believe the physicists have exact theories to reply questions equivalent to "whilst the filth and planets and all that ends does the universe? or does the blackness simply preserve goin on and on?" As for, "Why is there a Universe?" you can ought to regulate this query somewhat; or else, the physics men and women will provide an explanation for the "Big Bang Theory," which, I'm assuming (dangerous dangerous dangerous), is not the reply you desire. So, you would ask, "Is there restrict to the universe? And if it extends infinitely, is there a factor wherein atomic topic/vigour ceases to exist? or some thing to that outcome. As for G/god, there's no necessity for G/god to exist and for there to be a Universe. G/god, in accordance to a few, created the universe. But this perception is best adequate for the reply 'Why is there a Universe?'--now not indispensable; but, no person, as of gift, has given a indispensable reply to the query 'Why is there a Universe?' Maybe at some point you'll provide us this reply.

Answer 3

You are not crazy, we all go through this. Try to just be yourself.
Don't try to be something you're not, because you will just end up embarrassing yourself. Say Hi to him - don't be goo goo eyed or
anything - act like a mature cool chick who has her stuff together,
Believe this: Boys are way, way more self concious than us girls.
Hell, boys have to suffer rejection CONSTANTLY, and if this guy thinks you might be interested in him, he would be scarred to death thinking YOU WILL REJECT HIM! So just relax, and be
yourself, okay? If he sees you're somebody who isn't judging people, or snobby, etc.- you know - if he feels comfortable around you, that will be worth a million bucks to him.
Also: BE VERY CAREFUL ABOUT LISTENING TO 'FRIENDS'
advice. They just may not be as good of a friend as you think -
Use your own common sense and good judgement.
Good luck - oh, and if he turns out to be a jerk, doing it this way just means that then you won't look like "the stupid girl who slobered all over the jerk just to be humiliated" If he turned out to be a jerk, you'll still be the cool girl who has her sh-- together,
and has the attitude "oh well, dude, your loss".

Answer 4

Well sweeite When I was your age ( I'm 25 now) I had a HUGE crush on boy that rode my bus. He was a year older then me. I was just like you scared, nervious, worried about how he feels about me. What I would do is go up to him and ask him if he would like to Join you at a football game (that might be hard if he is a football player or your a cheerleader) but then go to a pizza place after the game with some friends and his friends. That will make it a little less nerve racking and you two can talk. OR you can just give him your phone number. Just walk up to him in school and give it to him. write on the paper the day and time you would like for him to call. like "call me tonight at 5" Kate... I HTH TK

Answer 5

This is like some weird dateline phishing ploy. And even if its not, you ought to know better than to give out your myspace account to the world, theres a lot of creeps out there.

You're not old enough to like boys, you cant even figure out how to be friends with one. Once you get that under your belt, then maybe you can start thinking about dating.

Answer 6

i wont tell u to ask him out because even if i did u wouldnt do that and i wont tell u to stay calm.

all i can say is.....every girl hates rejection and thats y they dont tell their feelings to the boy and now a days boys are shy too so they dont say it to the girl too.aparently it comes out that both of them likes each other and for their fear looses their love.

i hope u can understand wht i m saying...
u r matured enough to undestand ur feelings i hope u r matured enough even to undestand what i mean.


GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

My father use to tell me, "The worse thing someone can say to you is no." So I always ask, it never hurts. The you'll know the answer. Do you drink coffee? Ask if he wants to get coffee with you.

Answer 8

I think you are pretty and sure to get a guy,Just ask if he wants to go see a movie or get pizza sometime?

Answer 9

This is the 4th time you've asked this question. I mean come on, if you're truly serious about this funny flirting dude, then I suggest you start asking him, and not us. >_<

Answer 10

omg girl u r pretty!! your eyes are gorgeous!!! he very well may like you! dont jump to the dating thang though! even if he does like you, he might say no because thats just how guys this age are! plz! dont take it personally if he says no!!