2006-10-08 02:47:00 · 10 answers · asked by j e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
J E, depends on your wife, but I've said that to my husband, and i didn't mean i wont be honest about me cheating on him or something that extreme, just about small personal stuff that has nothing to do with him...that's all. So yeah it depends.
2006-10-08 02:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by Pebbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty...it's something to worry about. What she done before you got married, she shouldn't have to discuss. Everything after the I do's is your business. She won't promise to be honest, is that things like how much she actually spends at the mall, how much she weighs, or where she goes and what she does?
How much she weighs is no biggie? How much she spends? It depends upon if she is putting you in the poor house? If she has a problem handling money. Where she goes? A biggie..and what she does there..another biggie! I don't like secrets, don't believe that there should be any in a marriage.
When you marry, you devote yourself to the other person, That person should be allowed into every aspect of your life. A spouse doesn't have to be a prision quard, but I feel that it's your right to know what, when, where, and who. If a wife or husband is saying something, going somewhere, doing something that they don't want their partner to know about it's cheating. That's talking on-line, text messages, meeting for drinks or lunch, anything that has to be keep a secret is a relationship killer.
Worried, yes I would be. I am so sorry that she doesn't understand how this makes you feel. Honesty...the truth it may hurt you, it may anger you, it may even make you feel differently towards her, but it's your right. She gave you the right to expect her to be truthful, when you married her. Just has you should be honest with her. That's only right....worry yes!
2006-10-08 10:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't lie to my husband about anything. i think it is a good trait. I feel if you chose to spend the rest of your life with that person you shoulda got the past outta the way. Accept it. However I believe there should be NOTHING to hide from your husband or wife. I talk to an ex (fyi he has a wife and a baby. there is a friendship there) every once in awhile and my husband gets upset but I tell him. If I didn't, then I think there would be a problem.
2006-10-08 09:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by fyffedog_43202 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, what do you think? If you are asking the question I think you already have the answer. Of course. Sure there are some things in a marriage that are kept secret. Make an amnesty day. when both of you can clear your conscience and start off with a clean slate. But she is probably not telling you things to spare your feelings or is scared they will separate ya for good. its a risky proposition. Prioritize and find out whats more important to you.
2006-10-08 09:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by phishmelon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WORRY!!!!!
Can not figure out why people stayed married , get married without the honesty. This is what good mariages are built on. Without it there is not alot to work with. If she is not doing anything wrong she should have no problems being honest. When a couple get married they are suppose to become one.
2006-10-08 09:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by Karen S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think honesty goes with trust and trust goes with love, so yes I would be very worried.
2006-10-08 09:50:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are asking about her past, which you have no right to know, you should not stay with a person you can't trust. Imagine your future.
2006-10-08 09:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by Cookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats something to worry about unless she does not want to share her past with you..then you have to respect that. But if it concerns your present..then..thats a reason to get worried
2006-10-08 09:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry atleast you know he may be lying rather than worrying if she is
2006-10-08 09:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by Yoda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what won't she be honest about . my wife won't tell me who she votes for , but that's a nother rant
2006-10-08 09:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by crazy_ol_hippie_radical 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋