how can i motivate myself?

Question

my housework has gone downhill since i have been ill.im getting better but cant seem to get motivated my partner works nights during the week and mornings at weekends so he is to tired to help.can anyone give me some tips on how to catch up with it all.i have a two year old son who has adhd so im struggling.HELP

Answer 1

I'm sorry you have been ill, and I can certainly sympathize with your situation, especially with a 2 year old child with adhd. Before cleaning your house I think you need some sleep, or at the very least, some rest. The body heals itself during sleep time. For this you need outside help. Do you have a parent or sibling you trust completely who can care for your little boy for a half day, for a few days? Do you have a friend that can do a load or two of laundry for you? Wash, dry, fold and put away? Can someone pick up some groceries for you? If the answer is no to all of these questions, then you need to make a very SHORT list of what HAS to be done, not what you would like to be done. That list may consist of :

1. Necessary care for your son. Staying awake while he is awake, sleeping while he is asleep.

2. One load of laundry a day - only.

3. Have your partner pick up the groceries and put them away. Perhaps he can swing one meal a day. His hours are a little crazy but he needs to help out until you get back on your feet.

4. Forget about cleaning the house! Your body will tell you when you have the strength to clean.

5. Rest when you can! Better yet, sleep. Remember! You need to care for yourself FIRST. Not only do you deserve it, but if you don't, nothing else will matter.

Best of luck. I'm pulling for you!

Answer 2

Well, first of all. Turn off the computer. Eliminate your most common distractions, like the computer or t.v. Then make a list of things that need to be done. Then make a separate list of things you can have your son help with. Then just start going through the list. Spend a couple days really cleaning. After your house is as clean as you want, make a weekly list. Things that will need to be done at least once a week. Like laundry, choose a day to do all your laundry. Dusting, Cleaning the windows. After a while you will get into a routine.

Answer 3

First be kind to yourself - if you've been ill you need to take it gently and as your son has adhd you'll have your hands fairly full taking care of him.

I've broken my housework jobs down into 3 per day Monday to Friday only and it works for me + 1 load of washing.

Be positive, you can do it, just do a little each day. Do you have family you can ask to come and give you a hand until you get on top of it?

If not, make it fun, get your son to help you. Kids love 'helping mum' and the earlier you start them the better. Just keep it to short jobs when he's around.

Good luck!

Answer 4

You really are having a bad spell for sure.Just start small ,little projects at a time.Maybe just start with gathering papers and flyer's and old mail and put in the recycle box.Fill the sink with hot soapy water and either soak dishes if you don't have a dish washer or use it to clean surfaces with. Gather all white clothes up and put in a load of wash. Now take a rest and when you feel rested put the clothes in dryer and more in wash. Can anyone help with your son? If not can you hire a sitter to take him to the play ground ? Don't sweat the small stuff, you will be better soon and things will be "normal" once again.

Answer 5

Try to take some time preparing for the day before your child #1 get up and take a shower #2 drink some juice and eat a breakfast with a fair amount of protein and grains #3 do a small exercise 20 Min's (wake child up and put him/her in a stroller go for a walk) once you start getting a routine you can concentrate more on whats going on because your mind and body will be getting some of what they need. Therefore motivating you to start doing more. Don't sit and watch TV TV is the enemy.

Answer 6

Write yourself a to do list and work down it one at a time finishing one job before you start another. Crossing them off and seeing your list get smaller as the days go by should help motivate you. Write your self a daily list and a weekly list but don't worry if you don't get them all done it wouldn't be the end of the world.
Take Care

Answer 7

Ste yourself some goals to do each day. small goals like today ia m going to do the dishes and hoover, set tomorrows goals. Write them down and pin them up somewhere you can't miss them eg back of the toilet door or in front of the TV. After 2 weeks you will find that doing these tasks on a daily basis will become habit and you shouldn't have a problem.

Answer 8

Make a list, do hard stuff when you're in the mood, easy stuff when you are not, cross it off like Earl ,play music and exercise . You may be a little depressed, some signs would be over appetite or no appetite, lack of sleep or too much sleep and general malaise ,if the case please seek help it's not Worth it to be sad, ever.

Answer 9

Think of an environment that you would like to be in and would feel happy welcoming others into. Then create it one step at a time.

If you're like me, it only takes a few neat things to happen and I start to feel a whole lot better about life!

Answer 10

Clean up as soon as you are done with something ,don't let things pile up .If they do it just makes it seem worse.Wash the dishes after you have eaten ext.