My bf and I are pregnant, he however doesnt think we could handle it.?

Question

He just got out of 4 yr relationship not that long ago and feels that he will lose what he has left and wants to have an abortion--I cant do that. I feel we can make things work. I already have 2 and am not currently working and he doesnt make much where he works, I said I can go to work. I am currently living at home w/my parents and I know they would be very upset, and want to throw me out. What should I do

My son has Cystic Fibrosis and I am currently unable to work because of that, I would much rather have him healthy than sick. I do not get any assistance from any government program, but yes I live at home because of my sons condition, its kinda hard to live on your own when u dont work and only have support coming in.

Answer 1

WOW

In the last 11 hours you have gone from asking on here if you were pregnant,. to knowing for sure that you are.

And from not knowing the signs to already having 2 kids.

How about telling the truth for once.

Answer 2

Can you afford another child? How old are you? If he's feeling this way he's not going to change. He might look at this as being tied down. Are you totally against abortion? It might be better for you and the kids you have if you did. What about adoption? This is a choice you have to make. Are you going to school? Whose supporting you know? Talk with you parents, they can always help. I wish you luck!

Answer 3

Well the fact that he is afraid he will lose what he has left with the previous relationship should tell you something. He doesn't really care about you. He wants you to have an abortion so he does not have to stay committed to you. Honey do what you want but plan on raising the baby alone. Good luck

Answer 4

Whatever you do, do not think of abortion. You do not have to, even in the worse case, because there are millions of Americans wanting to ADOPT a child. I would advise you to give birth to the child and if during the next 8 months things have not improved in your relationship, then place the child for abortion. You will free yourself from a guilty conscience for the rest of your life. As for your boyfriend... he seems a little immature to me (however I do not know his age) and you seem to be quite above him. If your parents are normal people you can tell them you made a mistake and you do not want to make a bigger one by having an abortion and neither you want them to be guilty of making that terible decision.

Answer 5

Learn the value of a monogomous committed relationship coupled with birth control, for starters.

Secondly, stick to your guns. Its right to have the baby you both made. If it means taking him to court for child support, so be it. You didnt hop on yourself and get pregnant, he helped.

As for money, you either need to go to school so you can make a better living, or you need to get out on your own. There is subsedized housing for single mothers where rent is charged according to income. There are pleanty of jobs you can get to support yourself and your other two children. Living with your parents is nice and all, but no one wants a mooch. If theyre housing you, you need to be making money to support your childrens needs and not running around looking for boyfriends to get pregnant with for a third time.

Its time to be a grown up now, you're the only one who can be strong enough to support your kids and supply their needs at this point. Dont expect your boyfriend to do that. He's not committed to you in the long term, and has no contractual obligation to provide anything for you.

So, suck it up, find yourself a decent job, help your parents out as much as you can, and start looking for your own place. Once this baby is here, cart yourself down to planned parenthood and get on the depo shot or something.

Answer 6

for one thing, he doesn't want to have an abortion, he wants you to have one performed on you and your unborn child. why are you folks doing the deed without making sure you don't get pregnant? sounds like you got pregnant to keep him and get away from mommy and daddy. you both need to grow up. this situation really makes me angry. you have two kids from at least one other man, you cannot support yourself let alone your kids and now you are going to have another and you think the solution may be to kill it. it is inconvenient, isn't it? what you should do is give birth because the child did not ask to be created and should not be destroyed. then you should give the child up for adoption because it would be the responsible thing to do. being a good parent means making the choices which are best for your kids. this kids you have now need all of your energy and resources to ensure they don't fail at life the way their parents have. you need to devote yourself to them and forget yourself for a while. you definitely need to forget about getting romantically involved or having sex. be responsible. show your kids how sex should be treated by not spreading yourself around; set a good example. your kids don't deserve to have 'boyfriends' and multiple step-daddies in their lives; it's not good for anyone.
your boyfriend has the right to walk away. If a woman can get pregnant and choose to have an abortion or the go with adoption, that is her right. I think the father should have a choice to; parent or bow out. it is certain this man will not be a positive part of this child's life. it is certain your kids' lives will not be improved by the additon of yet another child for your parents to be responsible for.
go with adoption and grow up

Answer 7

Well 1st he should of protected him self if he was not reddy to have a baby what did he think would happen. You do what you feel is right you are the only one that can make that dicizion. May be gitting a job wouldnt be such a bad idea.

Answer 8

we'll i think u guys could probably handle it if u r a loving mother and u really want ur baby i don't think u should have an abortion?butt ur b/f probably is scared 2 be a dad bc of the fact he has 2 grow up and take his place i hope this helped u bye?

Answer 9

It is your body, your choice. It doesn;t matter if he wants you to have an abortion. If YOU decide thats what you want to do, then do it, if not than it is time to start making arrangements for your children and yourself. which means getting your own place getting a job, and start finincially and emotionally supporting yourselves. If your parents are going to kick you out, leave before they can. It is not their choice.

Answer 10

Are you sure that your BF is pregnant too? how come? If your BF wants to abort his baby, dont do what he wanna do...let your baby born and do takecare of it. Abortion is not the solution, face your responsiblity.